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How to ask for what you want (in bed)

When it comes to finding sexual health information online for gay and bisexual men, there’s a lot out there, and it can be hard to know where to turn for information you can trust. That’s why Avert has brought all our resources on sex, HIV, and sexual health for gay men, together in one place.  

This may be all new to you and you want to know why understanding HIV and sexual health are so important for gay and bisexual men, or maybe you’re already in the know about anal sex, oral sex, chemsex, condoms, PrEP, being undetectable, or what it means to live with HIV today. Either way we’ve got everything here to give you the knowledge to make choices that make sense for you, keep you healthy, and give you the freedom to have fun.

Men in bed for Hornet campaign
Everyone should feel able to have pleasurable and intimate sex in the way they want. In our new video, we give you some practical tips on how to ask for what you want in the bed.
man holding condom
We think it’s time to open up the conversation about sex without a condom, because these days there’s more than one way to stay in control of your sexual health.
Hand with '5 reasons to test again' written beside it
You already get it that testing is the only way to know your status, but did you know that you’re supposed to retest every 3-6 months?
Man saying 'Let's talk about sex'
Breaking down the jargon around safer sex, and bringing you up to speed with what’s new in sex and HIV.
There are only a few ways you can get HIV. Find out how to protect yourself.
Sign promoting HIV testing in Zambia
The reasons to test far outweigh the reasons not to. Find out about the benefits of testing for HIV.
Truvada - the drug used as PrEP
PrEP is taken before potential exposure to HIV to prevent an infection.
Chemsex can be fun, but taking drugs to enhance sex can lead to increased sexual health risks.
Two guys laughing on the street
There is no risk of passing on HIV if your doctor has confirmed that you are undetectable.
Back of a man wearing jeans
Lots of people enjoy anal sex. Make sure you know how to stay safe and enjoy it.
Man with banana hanging out of his jeans
Oral sex is a great way to get closer to someone and learn what turns each other on.
Handsome man with crossed arms
Advice on finding out you have HIV, telling others, taking treatment and staying healthy

The reality is that there are new ways to have fun, worry-free sex with the person you want, while maintaining full control over your sexual health – whether you’re living with HIV, or not.

Preventing HIV is now easier with pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) if you are HIV-negative. And antiretroviral treatment can reduce the level of virus if you’re living with HIV to such a low level that it’s undetectable and untransmittable (this is the ‘undetectable = untransmittable’, or U=U, message). As well as this, there’s new ways to self-test for HIV without even leaving the house.

The world is changing out there, so you would be forgiven for being confused.

So whether this is all rather new to you – or you’re clued-up but looking for some extra information to share with your friends – check out the pages above.

Photos are used for illustrative purposes. They do not imply any health status or behaviour on the part of the people in the photo.

Last updated:
12 November 2019
Last full review:
08 March 2018
Next full review:
07 March 2021