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The first time me and my girlfriend of six months tried having sex I got so nervous that I couldn't get an erection. I ended up trying so hard to "encourage" it, that I ended up ejaculating before I'd even put the condom on. I laugh about it now, but it was probably the most embarrassing experience of my life at the time.

I followed advice I'd found on the internet and stopped masturbating and then we tried again a week later on her bedroom floor [she was moving house] and it was great, I even managed to last half an hour.

What we say: Having sex for the first time can be overwhelming. There are a lot of emotions that can affect you physically as well as emotionally – and that’s OK! It will probably be a while before you feel completely comfortable, and even then this type of thing still sometimes happens. For more information, have a look at our How to have sex and Puberty pages.

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Last updated: 01 October 2019