Talking HIV: Dating older partners

02 October 2018

What are the pros and cons of dating older people? In this episode of Talking HIV, James and Tsholofelo discuss the risks and realities of dating somebody older.

Tsholofelo and James talk outside

You might have heard of the terms ‘Blessers’, ‘Sugar Daddies’ or ‘Ben 10s’, all of these refer to people in relationships with someone much older or younger than them. Often in these relationships, older partners provide their younger girlfriends or boyfriends with gifts or money. In this video Tsholofelo and James discuss what the pros and cons might be to having relationships with people of different ages. As Tsholofelo points out, you normally “have to give something back.”

What do you think? Are older partners taking advantage of young people? Why might people want to date someone older than them? 

Talking HIV: Tsholofelo and James

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Written by Francesca Harrington-Edmans

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