Kelsie

The reason your reading this story is to hear of how some one, like me, a lesbian of a young age came out to their parents and friends so that maybe you can decide what to do and how to do it. And how long they have known. Well I would love to tell you its amazing and easy, but some of the time that's not the case. I'm 16 years old and have known I am a lesbian and have been since 3rd grade when I began to like my best best friend; but it was 3rd grade and it wasn't right, or so I thought, and now I have a wonderful girlfriend, and she was the one who gave me strength to "come out" to my parents. She told me no matter what happened she would stick by my side.

So I told my mom and she stood there like I had just told her I kill a man. Then walked away. Not a word, not even a glimpse into my eyes. So I figured she hated me, I was wrong. She came up to me a few hours later and told me she loved me for being so brave, brave enough to tell her. She told me that nothing in the world would ever change the way she felt about me, I am her daughter and she will love me unconditionally for the rest of my life. But my dad, well hes a different sorry. I haven't told him because its I guess just not that easy. He would know if he didn't divorce my mom. But he did and doesn't know and I have no clue if I can ever tell him. See I have a cousin that is a lesbian and he wont let me talk to her or see her because of that fact, what if I tell him and he never wants to see me again? So for now my wonderful girlfriend Lara is just a friend I have to call every night I'm at his house because of various made up reasons.

I want you all to know, no matter how hard it is one day will be the day you will tell everyone who matters. And if they dont accept you, its their loss. Be stronger than I am tell the people you love so you can be free of the ties that hold you down. So that you can love who you want with or with out acceptance from anyone and every one. You can be you and love who you love regardless of gender or race. It's ok.

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Ashlee

Well I am 15 years old and I have known that something was differnt about me since the 5th grade. My freshmen year I had fully come to terms with who I am. I'm a lesbian. It's not like a go around yelling it but if people ask I will tell them the truth. Alot of people at my school aren't exactly "yay gay" because I go to an all girl catholic private school, it's not exactly looked well at by all the nuns.
 
But the first person I told was my best friend of 14 years, I just told her I had something to tell her and I told her. Actually, she already knew and had known. So of course she was okay with it. After that coming out to my other friends got easier and easier. I was planning on telling my parents but I was never sure how. And the day I did come out to them it was the last thing on my mind. I was in a "gay friendly" store with my parents and pointed out a wallet that I liked that happened to have a rainbow on it, which wasn't even why I wanted it. My mom jokingly asked if I was gay and if that's why I broke up with my last boyfriend. Knowing the answer was yes I walked out of the store.
 
After I got home I was lying on my bed and my mom walked in and told me to talk to her. I told her. Her response: "so what, you dig chicks." it had gone very well, way better than I had ever expected. And my mom told my dad, and him and I had a talk on the back of his pick up truck and he told me that I can always talk to him about anything. Well, thats how I came out, gay and proud(:

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Nicole

I'm 15 and I'm bisexual. I have known for a long time, at least since I was 9. When I first realized what the feelings I had really were it took me a long time to accept it. I wasnt raised in a very religious family but my mother and step father are openly homophobic so i kept telling myself that the feelings were bad and wrong. i kept trying to convince myself that they would just go away. I absolutely hated myself and would cry about it sometimes at night. When i was about 12 i finally realized that i was bisexual and that the feelings werent going to go away and i started to come to terms with it.

The first person i told was my best friend. It had been driving me crazy not telling her so we were walking to the park and i just told her. I was like really nervous and she asked me what was wrong so i asked her what she would do if i had a really big secret. she said she wouldnt tell anyone so i just blurted it out to her. she was completely cool with it. it didnt bother her at all.

After that i slowly started coming out to my close friends and eventually in the middle of 8th grade i came out to everyone at school. I got some negative reactions but mostly people just left me alone. a few people actually came to me to ask for advice cause they felt they same way and it was just like woah. i didnt expect that.

The way i came out to my parents was not pleasant. I had just gotten in huge trouble for breaking curfew by alot freshman year and for some reason i decided to say i only keep one secret from you when i was getting yelled at for lying and being untrustworthy. They like immediately jumped on me about that so like i was half crying and super upset when i told them. My dad didnt care then and still doesnt care now. It completely didnt phase him. My mom was just like NO and walked out of the room. My step dad just like froze up and followed her. No was the only word i heard from them for about 2 weeks but then like my mom just put it behind her and hasnt brought it up since. I know that all parents are supposed to understand after a while but not my mother. I am forbidden to have a girlfriend and she was flat out told me that she would not go to my wedding if i marry a girl. But even though all of this i dont regret telling her because its like a huge weight of my chest, even if she doesnt accept it.

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Ruby

I am 15 years old, and I'm a lesbian. I've always known I was, but I was afraid to come out, because well it's scary. I recently came out and my friends accept me. I had one friend who backed away for awhile and it hurt me because she was a close friend. She wouldn't even look at me or let alone let me touch her. She came around and now she's close to me again. she apologised for acting the way she did. I told my parents. My mum started crying and I was too afraid to tell my dad because he never truly accepted them. That night my mumsy told my dad and she started crying again and he told her "Why are you crying, she's still our daughter" so I thought he would accept me. To this day, he doesn't even speak about it and gets upset when I say gay or queer. it hurts so much that they can't accept it. My mum still wants to believe I'll like a guy and it gets me mad. Before I came out my sister always called me a lesbian or dyke when she got mad at me. Often times I'd start crying and run away. Now she knows the truth and apologised to me for ever calling me those names. Some people do hate me because I'm queer. and it does hurt no matter what anyone says. I act like it doesn't and I turn my back. I don't let them see me cry but at night I still get into a ball and cry myself to sleep hoping I'll meet the girl of my dreams and everyone will just accept me. I wish I was accepted.

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Carol

I am 15 and bisexual. I've yet to tell my family though I think some of my relatives already suspect that I'm not fully straight. I am one of those people that don't tell people I'm bi - it's one of those things that if you ask me I'll answer - because frankly I don't see why it's any of their business. Now don't get me wrong, I understand that people like to "confess" to others like family or friends and I've done it as well. And it truly does help a person accept or acknowledge who they truly are, it's like the final piece of the puzzle.

It doesn't change your identity at all and it's not a choice it's a way of life. Some deny the truth about who they are and while I do understand that certain conditions may force a person to denial it's not healthy and the truth will come out one way or another so might as well acknowledge it whenever possible. The truth will set you free.

I myself was ignorant of my bisexuality or at least the perception people viewed bisexuality until middle school but it clarified the feelings(crushes) I had for girls and boys in elementary school. I also didn't accept my bisexuality until 7th grade and when I did come out the year later most of my friends already suspected - and weren't cringing or flinching away like I was a freak which was a great relief because the acceptance helped me accept myself.

Now, I'm in high school about to be a junior and in heads-over-heels for this girl. just because I'm bisexual doesn't mean that I'm one to take initiative in my previous relationships my former boy and girl friends had to ask, i'm just like any regular awkward teen even if i'm bisexual.
So good luck for those who are still on the fence about their sexuality and i hope this helped.

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Anonymous

As of today, I can let you all know that I am still having difficulties of being accepted within my family but I am fully supported by a good handful of close friends for the type of person that I am truly deep down inside.

I do not like to label myself as a bi-sexual or lesbian because whether it's the right man or woman comes into my life, that is who I will share my life with.

I am currently a college student into my 3rd year but I have been struggling to fully accept myself since I have been in the 2nd grade. I have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for the past 1-2 years and she has been very supportive of what I do and have gone through especially with a strict, religious family and church pastor!

She is the second girl that I have been in a relationship with after the relationship with the first girl failed terribly in trust issues, wonders and very little communication. I have dated and been in relationships with guys, a good number but never fell into the trap of giving my virginity with them and I don't regret of losing it to the person I love very much, the girl that I am dating now.

I've realized I have started to gain a big interest on girls when back in 2nd grade, I had moved from an old school to a new one. Since I was new to my surroundings during that time and by that young age, holding each other's hands (same sex) was acceptable because it was just a symbol of caring.

I don't know if it's just myself or others but i have a very strong love and care for others before me at a young age. So one of my classmates was my tour partner and she held my hand....WHAT AN AMAZING FEELING it was! It feel acceptance and just the whole definition of everything that I've thought of a relationship was. I never told anyone about this except the person that I am dating. I let the feeling go numb over my elementary years to the point that I was homophobic in 9th grade until my curiosity peaked out in 10th grade of high school after a conversation with my bisexual cousin. "People are created equal and should be respected by others"- that's what my cousin told me and this was the turning point of my life where I knew that I had to do something about my interest of girls.

I had a crush on a close friend but I thought it was just a phase so I ended up being known in my group of friends that I was 'boy-crazy'. Until my freshmen year of college, this is when I started exploring what I was so curious about. So this is where I am today but most importantly, and I hope you all take this in consideration....I've realized that the most important factor to go through all the difficulties and to be strong when you down, find something to work hard upon (a job, chore or even homework assignment), and let time speak for itself. NEVER GIVE UP!

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Lilly

Hello I am Lilly. I was always pretty sure I was straight, I mean I have always fancied guys, and never even looked at girls or fancied any of them. However I have just met a girl a few months ago, and we just clicked. We got really close and joked around about liking each other. I mean at first I was joking, we were just good mates and just had a laugh. But then I realised I genuinely really like her and when she told me she had wanted to kiss me, we kind of realised this was real. At first it is pretty scary and so confusing, I am only just coming to terms with the fact that I fancy a girl.

After talking about it we have decided to keep it to ourselves. I don’t have the guts to tell my family just yet, I need to decide how I feel first also I don’t know how they would react. I think my friends would be more understanding as one of my best friends came out as Bi last year. I’m not ashamed of liking a girl and I don’t think anyone should be. I just want people to know they are not alone in making these decisions and they can take their time in deciding what is best for them like we are doing.

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Evelyn

I am 18 years old, and I have known that I'm gay my whole life.

Many times I have blamed God, and said I was born the wrong gender. I would cry myself to sleep at night when I was 13. I wanted a real family of my own, but i thought it would come with the price of being unhappy.

I still remember being seven, and in the first grade. I went to hangout with my first best friend at her house, for the first time. We went swimming and afterward we got in her shower to change out of our cold bathing suits, and let the water warm our skin. I remember running my hands along her skin. the feeling blew my mind. I got into my mothers car later to go home, and in telling her the exciting parts of my day I blurted out that we had been naked in her shower, touching. I guess maybe I didn't know back then that this wasn't exactly normal. I was quite young. I remember my mother slammed on the brakes, and gave me a look that I'll never forget. she told me never to do that again. I felt so ashamed. I just wanted to be "normal."

I'm almost positive that my best friend was ashamed of the feelings too, but she remained in my life for several years. Always close yet always distant.
I didn't "come out" until I was sixteen. I was ashamed of who I was, but I've learned to accept myself, and so have the people who truly care about me.

I've learned that the only thing to be ashamed of is to not give love a chance, no matter how crazy it seems.

The world has become a much more accepting place than in the past, and the future is even brighter.
I wouldn't change my gender or my sexual orientation if someone paid me.

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Anon Girl

I am a 20 year old girl and bisexual.

I have known 4 a few years now..at first i thought it was a phase that would pass and had a few boyfriends over the years putting any feelings I had towards girls 2 the back of my mind as best I could. This went ok until I got stronger, deep feelings 4 a girl..1 of the hardest parts was loving some1 so much and not being able 2 tell her how I felt and knowing that if i did tell her I would have lost her as a friend altogether. I was angry with myself 4 how I felt and was 2 embarrassed 2 tell any1, my feelings were tearing me apart..and began 2 develop a stupid method of coping with them..I began 2 self harm. Every time I felt overwhelmed with anger or sadness I would cut myself..this is my biggest ever regret as I am now left with some scars on my arms.. at the time though 4 some reason this felt like a normal way of coping. After about a year of this i seen sense and stopped.

The girl i fell 4 was a friend who fell out with me..I still 2 this day don't no why as she never knew about my sexuality or self harming. This broke my heart but after a while I met a guy who beacame my boyfriend..everything was fine until i met another girl who became my best friend. After a while my feelings 4 her grew stronger. Although I trusted her I couldn't tell her how I felt about her. After a while i broke up with my boyfriend as i knew it wasn't right me leading him on. As time went by me and my best friend became really close and my feelings 4 her have changed..i see her more like a sister now which is alot better.

It's got 2 the point now where i feel like i need 2 tell some1 about me being bisexual as it's tearing me apart and although me and my best friend are really close i'm scared of telling her..i don't want 2 loose her or 4 her 2 b distant towards me. i know that people say if she is a true friend she will stick by me but some people feel really uncomfortable with the idea and i wouldn't blame her for that if she did. I know my mum would stand by me but i am embarrassed 2 tell her. I'm not ashamed of who i am just scared of how people will react and it's making me miserable...i don't no what 2 do

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Tarah

I am only 14, i had a girlfriend, she was my first. I had no idea that i was gay just that i had feelings for her. it was weird at first because i didn't know if she "rolled like that" but i sorta knew i always did. i was never the " OH i need some lip gloss and more make-up!" so i was always a "tomboy" i guess but now that i'm in highschool i'm starting to realize that women are MUCH more appealing to me then men are, and that freaked me out, it still does cause i'm still so young.

I deffinatley like girls thats for sure, but i also still like guys too. it confuses me sometimes cause at one point i'll be thinking NOPE it was just a fase i'm not gay. and then i'll be thinking that i am totaly gay and men don't have the same attraction. i think that most of the time but there are those days when i feel the other way.

But hearing about all this bisexual talk i think that it's a real sexuality on its own i used to think that it meant that you we're a slut or didn't know what you were doing or trying to find yourself. but now i know that its nothing like that. unless thats how your using it.

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Amber

I guess in a way i have always known there was something different about me. When i was younger (6-7) I kept these journals, its been almost eleven years since i looked a these journals and was surprised by what i saw. Even when i was younger, my perfect wedding day never consisted of a man and a woman. Instead, i had drawn a picture of two brides. I always wrote about how someday i would meet the perfect girl, and we would be together forever.

Well, it was not till i started ninth grade all this sank in. At the beginning of ninth grade, i decided i was going to try and see how things worked with guys. So i dated on and off with guys, but never felt any connection with them. Instead we ended up as friends, or sometimes never spoke again. Knowing things weren't going so well there, I began to look for a girlfriend. Her name was kit, and she was absolutely amazing. As time went on i began to think, maybe i am gay.

This year, my junior year, i decided to come out to my parents. They took it horribly and banned me from seeing kit and eventually we broke up. My mom would push guys at me, and wanting to please her i would give in and date them. I felt so awful about hurting them, but i couldn't stand hurting my family anymore that i already had.

Even now i am not open fully anymore with my family. I am dating an incredible girl named christina whom means the world to me. My parents believe she is a friend, and i'm happy to keep it that way. but i now know that i'm a lesbian, and im proud of it. even if i have no support from my family, my friends back me up all the way

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Meghan

I've always known that i liked girls, but at the same time i liked boys too.

It took me awhile to come to the terms that i was a bisexual. I always thought being bisexual mean that you dint know what you were, then one day i looked up the word "bisexual" and found out that it doesn't mean you don't now who you are it means that you like both side.

I told the first person that i was a bisexual at the beginning of my grade 8 school year, it was hard for me to tell him because it would be the first time i actually admitted to someone what i was. It all went by good he was very understanding.

The following year i feel in love a girl named Laura, me and her were friends for a long time but that time i truly fell for her. I never did tell her that i liked her was always afraid of what she would say.

A year went by and a new girl came to my school. She was far the most beautiful girl i have ever seen, her name was Cece and she was a lesbian and really out and proud and i guess we just automatically clicked cuz its been a year and a half that we have been dating and i am now out and proud as she is. 

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Caity Bea

I guess I first realized I was truely a lesbian when I was in eighth grade. I had a friend that soon became my best friend and we would spend all of our time together. She was so funny and smart and I was irrevocably in love with her.

As our friendship progressed and grew stronger I thought it was time to tell her how I felt...well I did and she felt the same way too. On that same night that I told her my feelings we had sex for the first time. It was beautiful and I loved every minute of it.

Since then we have grown apart due to family situations. I have liked guys and I have had sex with guys.....but I love women lol. I am now 18 years old and I will be getting married to my fiancé....heather. God has truely blessed me.

Coming out was easy for me with my family.....my mother already suspected it. My little brother doesn't see me any different.....but I guess what I'm trying to say is be who you are and don't let life or anyone dictate who u are and what you are.

God bless anyone who is hurting or struggling with their sexual orientation. You will find yourself soon enough.

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Shenandoah

I knew since I was in Elementary school. I was never very interested in guys, they always seemed like good friends to me. In 6th grade, I came out as bi-sexual to a few close friends. My best friend, we'll call her Chantel, was gorgeous...curvy, sensual, and sweet. She had an amazing laugh. I really liked her, and she liked me. One night I slept over at her house, and the whole night I was dying to kiss her. A few days later, we both confessed that we really had wanted to kiss. We both knew we were bi-sexual, but I thought it could possibly be something more.

Fast forward to the beginning of 7th grade, I met my first girlfriend, who is now my best friend, she was my first kiss. It was explosive and passionate, I'll never ever forget the feeling. She broke my heart, I got depressed, felt worthless, and developed an eating disorder (etc. etc). I thought that maybe if I was thinner, people would love me...During all of my heartbreak, I developed a crush on my best friend. She was so gorgeous, and at that time, all that I wanted. There was a drawback of course. She was straight. I confessed my feelings to my other friend, who told the girl I liked /everything/ (including how I wanted to try and "convert" her). I wanted to die. My best friend ignored me for months. I was so broken.

During the summer before 8th grade, I started going to therapy. It's really helped me heal, and I guess I looked a little less sickly because guys started liking me. In the beginning of the school year I went out with one, a grade ahead (9th), and I never really liked him more than a friend. I felt bad, because he really liked me. I met a girl, we'll just go with her real name, Carly. She wasn't a virgin. All my friends told me she was bad news...the first time I had talked to her, though, I fell absolutely head over heels in love. I believe we only lasted 2 weeks. She was depressed and a cutter (I broke her addiction to cutting though, yay!), and she was my angel. I slept over at her house, we kissed, she and I got topless, and it was amazing. I never felt so much intensity as when I looked in her eyes. She and I could just study each others faces and bodies for hours. I loved waking up with her. When she broke up with me, though, I got sad again. I had learned my lesson the first time, however, and didn't let myself go. I held my head up high. I became free and just loved myself. Of course, then I had to go and get myself a boyfriend, which lasted nearly 2 months, but I broke it off. He was just a friend to me and I felt nothing when we kissed, basically I knew then. That it was true, I am gay.

I'm in 8th grade. I've accepted myself, so have my parents and friends. I am proud, and I wish you luck.

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Molly

I've been different for as long as I can remember. Ever since I was four I pretended to be a boy. Ever since I was eight I hurt myself for sexual gratification. Ever since I was fourteen I've been attracted strongly to both sexes. For my entire elementary school experience I was beaten up by other kids and pushed by my parents to do better.

Now I know what I am. I am bisexual, bigender, polyamorous, and strongly sexually submissive. It took twenty-one years to realize this. I regret all the years I lied to myself and tried in vain to be normal. I finally made my peace and I have a wonderful girlfriend and an amazing boyfriend. I only wish I had done all this sooner. All the years I spent in that horrid limbo, thinking that I was a freak, they were self-imposed hell based on my parent's beliefs. Now I am happy, I can kiss girls and know that it is a demonstration of love rather than a childish game. I can be spanked and feel something so intense that there is no word for it. I feel loved and I love myself.

I know that I am not 'normal' but I don't want to pretend any longer. There are probably a lot of girls and boys out there, men and women even, going though what I went though. It's hard and families don't always understand.  The thing is, it's what I am, it's what we are and there's no denying that. The more of us there are the stronger we grow. It's time to stop denying ourselves happiness and find people that we can love.

Good luck and, should you believe in such a thing, God bless.

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