Anon

The one special girl who has helped me develop the real me is griselda. She was my first girlfriend. She isnt the type of girl who throws on make up or even bothers to do her hair. She is more of a giving and caring person. One thing i hate about her is that she has addiction to stuff. I meet her in middle school. We are both high school grads and of course keep in contact. Ther ehasnt been a day I dont think of her. I have a boyfriend and am able of leaving him for her. Momentarily she is dating another girl in which she wouldnt leave. it hurts to know that all the things shes done in the past has damaged me alot to confess what I feel for her. I do thank her for making me realize I am bi sexual. We started going out in th beginging of high school and aroung the same time she cheated on me with my friend. She cheated lied and even crushed my heart. I have a hard time dealing around with what I amm and what to do bc of my experiences.

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Radhika

Hi I\'m Radhika.

I am a lesbian although i never realized this until I was 12. I woould masturbate secretly in my room and sometimes use my brothers electric toothbrush. One day my brother almost caught me and I got scared. I stopped expressing my sexuality completely. I wasw afraid to tell my family becuase they were extremely religious.

2 years later a girl emailed me online to tell me they wanted to speak to me. I spoke to them on msn and they wanted to see me through webcam. We started having cyber sex before we met.

The first time we met. It was a little odd but we soon got on and a week later we had sex for the first time. I slept over her house and when her parents were asleep she slipped her fingers down to my knickers and slowly rubbed my pussy. I was freaked out but I didn\'t want her to stop. She slowly got yp and undressed me and slid herself on top of me and began sucking my nipples. I began fingering her as she moaned and it was amazing. She and I licked each other and rubbed our pussies together. It was amazing. I fell in love with her.

I couldn\'t keep it a secret anymore so I confessed it to my parents. They were so understanding that I was a lesbian and told my brothers. Now I don\'t feel uncomfortable telling people that I am a lesbian and I don\'t get harassed because of it.

My advice is that whoever is afraid about their sexuality should tell people because they won\'t react as shocked and ashamed as you may think.

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Ursula

Hi, the name\'s Ursula and I\'m 13 years old. I\'m in 8th grade. Most people say I\'m too young to know what I want. I like to think I\'m pretty mature for my age, so I don\'t care if you take me seriously or not. I\'m bisexual and I\'m not confused about that. I like girls more than guys, and to be honest, I\'m actually hoping to get into an all-girl\'s school. Heh. Get ready to swallow an ear full, hun, because when I get to ranting, it usually takes a couple days to finish.

I\'m not sure when I first started liking girls but I think I finally drifted from denial around a year or so ago. I was really confused and I wanted some answers, some solid answers. I wasn\'t in the mood to go through all that sappy, mumbo-jumbo, \"Love knows no gender, blah blah blah\" and so on and so forth. I wasn\'t stupid enough to go asking adults what it meant if you were attracted to other girls. As per usual, the internet was a huge help with research and all and a couple books I read about lesbians.

The thing that I kept feeling bad about was the fact I felt the need to do all this on the sly. I didn\'t let my father know and I most definately didn\'t let my mother know. I didn\'t let my siblings, my closest friends, or relatives know. It was my secret. I lied about a lot of things, and once I even had somewhat of a girlfriend. I\'m not sure if it was much of a relationship, but we were intimate when no one else was around, so I guess it was.

I met this girl named Pauline. I have to say she was the most beautiful girl I\'d ever laid eyes on. Ready for the cliche part of this story? She was very... popular, you could say? Especially with the guys. I wasn\'t particularly popular in school, but I wasn\'t a loner exactly. One day, I decided to throw caution to the wind and talk to her, and what do you know? We became insta-friends! I liked her a lot, but I couldn\'t possibly sprawl the guts to tell her that, now could I?

Eventually, her parents said I could sleep over while they were out of town. Apparently her parents thought I was two years older than her or something? Yeah, I thought that was pretty hilarious. Anyway, so I stayed over. We did the normal things: We created a mess in the kitchen in an attempt to make a sweet snack, played around with the camera on our phones, and- oh, my favorite- watched scary movies with salty, buttery popcorn. But as soon as we got bored and outside hit dark, we started to play games. She would kiss me, I would kiss back. She would touch me, I would touch her. We\'d snuggle together and everything. We sure wrestled a lot, which I liked... a lot. Haha! I asked her what all that meant the next day at school. Do you know what she said? \"Best friends do that a lot.\" ... Are you kidding me? No way in frozen hell did I believe that yet I couldn\'t find it in me to be annoyed at her. If she didn\'t want to admit it, I couldn\'t do anything about it.

After that, I was at her house almost day. After a while, she confessed to me. She seemed confused when she did, like she was just as confused about liking girls as I was, and so we went out on secret dates a lot. It usually just consisted of us lying to our parents and then when we were alone, we would be intimate. It was fun and I thought things couldn\'t get any better. Then, reality set in. As I said before, Pauline was very popular especially with the guys. It wasn\'t really surprising to find her kissing a guy near her house. I felt like a dork and a sponge at the same time. A dork because she had been a reason why I felt I was confused about my sexuality in the first place. A sponge because I felt at that time that I contained so much water that it actually spilled from my eyes and I didn\'t talk to her for days. We cleared up the predicament after a while, but I don\'t think I ever liked her the same. I think of her more as a friend now, but she keeps at saying how much she likes me. She\'s so teasing, I\'m not sure if she joking or not.

Wow, that was a lot to type. Well at least it\'s a true story, believe it or not. And really, I don\'t care if you don\'t. If you do, that\'s great! If you don\'t, too bad for you, I guess. Seriously I\'m surprised you\'re still reading after all that, so thanks. So after curiousity about dating a girl was done and over (and after I wafted through my denial clumsily), I started to think about my parents.

Now I was pretty sure my father wouldn\'t be pleased if I told him that I had a thing for girls, but I definately know he wouldn\'t be as upset as how my mother would over-react. I tried to hint it to her, but the woman\'s in-denial. I think my dad\'s pretty much got the picture but I\'m not too sure. I think I\'ll tell them one day when I\'m older... much, much older. Maybe when I\'m equiped to handle the emotional pressure. Until then, wish me luck so that it has a low possibility of all this blowing up in my face. (o.o)b
 

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Elle

i remember liking girls even back when i was about 6. i have always felt like an outsider, and i found it especially hard to keep up with fashion and things like that, i just didnt have any idea at all of what kind of things to wear. it was really confusing.

when i was about 13, i fell in love with my best friend, which was really hard. it took a while for me to come to terms with the fact i liked her, and when i told her it started off a year of almost complete hell between us. when i was 14, i fell in love with another girl, and after liking her for about a year we became good friends, although i found it really hard to be around her and keep this huge secret from her. the thing is though, she helped me come to terms with who i am, and to feel comfortable talking to people about mysexuality and being open about it. she still doesn't know i liked her, but she's made my life a lot easier for me by helping me through it.

now, we're good friends and i don't like her that way anymore. i feel so much more free for being able to be open about who i really am, and now i even enjoy talking about it in front of people who arent comfortable with it, it's sometimes quite amusing!

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Anita

My name is Anita, and I am 15 year of age. I first new that I was into girls when I was in year 8. My first year of high school hell. Now even though I new it in my gut, I didn't except it until about the beginning of year 10. I was way too scared to. Although most of my friends had told me they were gay/lesbian. My mum had just started getting into church and I was most of all scared to tell her.

My friends mainly guessed. But I wanted to tell my mum officially first. So one day after school I came home and told her, she had a few questions which I didn't have any answers to so I don't think she completely believed me. But after I told my brothers, she came up an was like, So it's true? And I was like, Yer it is.

Then I officially came out. I told my friends that I was bi, but kept the fact that I'm more attracted to women to myself. The hardest part about telling my friends' was that a couple of them felt weird. So I explained something to them. I said, Have I ever made you feel as though I'm attracted to you? Are you attracted to every guy you see? Because I'm not attracted to every guy or girl I see, and you are in that category, and just coz I like women doesn't mean I'm into you. And then just to show I'm still the old sarcastic me I said, I know it's a big blow to your pride. And after that, they felt a tad better.

But just coz my friends were fine with it didn't mean that the rest of the school was. I got bullied and just ignored. What they couldn't comprehend was that being bi some times sucks, you not only get rejected by one gender but you get rejected by two. You get hardly any help from the lesbian community coz they feel like you just can't make up your mind. And your greedy.

But one day at school, I fell for this girl. She was a couple of months younger than me, went to my church and used to date my brother. Well, that didn't really matter to me, she was the highlight of my day.
We eventually went out, but I broke up with her about 1 to 2 weeks later because I had my own demons and didn't want to bring her down with me. And about a week after we broke up, I dated one of my friends, for about the same amount of time. I also ended the relationship. I was depressed and confused and very suicidal. I mainly still am. And only you, the readers know this, and probs my best friend Leslea. But the worst part about this all, is that I still love my first girl friend. And I always will.

So, I'm gonna go know, but I hope this story has helped you. thanx for reading it. love ya. xoxo.
 

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Raegan

hi, Im ray and Im 21 this is my story,

At the age of 13 I started to notice girls firstly it was a teacher I thought she was so hot and where ever she was in school is where i wanted to be if I could. I think this teacher knew and it made her uncomfortable which you can't really blame her. Any how a year later this teacher left I felt sad but I got over it. I allways thought these feelings can't be right and I felt like I just wanted to be normal like all the other girls so I went out with boys just to fit in Knowing that they never done anything for me or that I was attracted to them in anyway.

Then reaching year 9 I fell in love with a girl in my year. She was a freind and me and her hung out with other freinds, it became near the time of my 15th birthday so a week before i asked my mam if i could have a sleep over and she agreed. That night quite a few of my freinds turned up and as u do when your young you have a drink as we all did, freinds were all over my house and me and this girl I liked went into my room and just sat on my bed talking.

She knew I liked her in that way maybe by the vibes I gave off, she told me she liked boys but I knew this as she had a boyfreind but I hated him as they allways used to fight and she would have black eyes etc, but as we were talking we some how kissed, and kissed more and more then she was feeling my breasts and slide her hand down my knickers but what we didn't realise at the time was there was people sitting in my room, due to the fact we were drunk and the lights were off  they were sitting in there corner hiding. Any way that was all we did and when we went back to school the rumours went round and it was extremly hard to deal with.

I wrote this girl letter's explaining how I felt towards her, but with they way people were towards us in school it was horrible the stick  to much for me as it was her, so one day she brought the letters into school which i had wrote and what was clearly my hand writing and placed them on a table so every body could read.

Thankfully I wasn't in her class so I didnt have to bear the shame but I did get people coming up to me asking me If I had wrote the letters which I denied. My freinds were surportive and thought what this girl had done was totally wrong and unfair.

I stuck out school for another whole year even though the grief I was getting was to much to handle. Then one day I cried to my mam and told her I wasn't going back and explained what had been happening she went to the school to talk to the deputy head and he explained that he would handle the situation, which I knew he would try but some people are so judge mental and once they have made up there mind there is no way off changing it.


As me and my mam came out of the school pupils who were in a lesson were hanging out of a window and shouting insults about my sexuality and with my mam being there, she heard for her self a small fraction of what I was going through then she withdrew me from school and I never went back to that school or any other school.


I had my first girlfriend at 16 and she was alot older than we were on and off for 5 years, then I met another girl we lasted a few month, I ended back up with my ex that lasted  5 month and now im currently single I guess she wasnt the right girl for me.

Even though Im out off the closet now and some people except me for me and my family are fine with it. There will always be people out there who won't except it. All I can say is our sexual preferences don't change us as a person and if people can't except us for who we are then they are not worth knowing. It can be a hard battle at first but what doesn't kill us makes us tronger and as time goes by and you get older it becomes easier never let any one make you feel abnormal or strange and don't live your life the way others think you should be yourself and you should find you will be happy. :)

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Unknown

It all started a long time ago in the second grade. There was this girl. She was my best friend cousin, and she and I were kind of friends.
Then once she took me into the bathroom at school, and asked me if I wanted to play a game. I said yes, not knowing what the game would be like. And before I knew it she was kissing me.
I didn't know what to do other than kiss her back, and before I knew it I was kind of liking it.

But I couldn't believe what I was doing. I was a second grader, who knew nothing about what she was doing. This girl was kissing me, and I was liking it, and I didn't even know that was possible.

This started to become a regular thing. She started asking for me to meet her in the bathroom, and even though I wasn't sure if I liked kissing girls, and being with them, I didn't exactly say "no".

Finally, without telling her, I decided I didn't want to do this anymore. Not because I had anything against lesbians it's just that I knew what we were doing was wrong. We were so young!

But one day I was talking with my other friends and she came over and pulled me away from them, and into the private teacher's bathroom. She started kissing me, before I even had a chance to tell her I didn't want to.

And then she took off her skirt and told me to get on my knees...

I followed all her instructions.

And then we heard knocking, and I jumped up and she and I lied that we were playing hide and seek and were hiding in there.

When she pulled up her skirt, and we were forced out of the bathroom she told the teacher what I did, but didn't mention the fact that she MADE me.

I got in trouble with the teacher, my Mom and her big sister yelled at me until I cried.

But how was I to know any better? I was a little girl.

To this day I'm still not fully sure about my sexuality.

I'm only 13 now, so I guess I have a lifetime to figure it out... but I like boys, and haven't wanted to do anything like that with another girl ever again but when I think about what I did, I think that maybe it wasn't just because she told me too.. maybe I WANTED to?

I don't know. I'll figure out eventually.

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Nicole

I realized I was bi when i was 16 years old. when i was younger i was into boys never thought id fall in love with a girl. I moved to a new town when i was 16. I met a really great group or friends and i acually fell in love with one of them. She was not bi or lesbian at the time.

One night we all slept at her house on the floor and she was beside me, she reached under my blanket and held my hand. At first i was scared and nervous and didnt really no what  to think and then i realized i reallly like the feeling. I slept over the next night alone and things went from there. We spent pretty much 24 hours a day together at school and after school. It was the best9 months of my entire life and i still think about that time everday.

After we dated for a long time it was all kept a secret from everyone. for some reason we just decided to be friends we are still best friends to this day.

We go out and party together everyweekend with our friends and all i can think about is how badly i wish we were together. But her and i both have a boyfriend now, im going on 9 months with mine and she is going on 5 with hers. We kiss randomly when were drunk and i just always want more.

I think that if you are bi or a lesbian you should always tell people, because i think it will onloy improve your relationship with the person your with. I think if we told people maybe  her and i would have lasted instead of doing it all as a secret

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Unknown

I realised I was bi at 16 years old. I never have looked at a girl that way in my life, always dated a lot of guys and never thought twice about it. I moved to a new town and met a guy that i fell in love with well I thought I loved him anyway.

I had met a group of friends in the new town and we all went to a friends place for a sleepover and watch movies and stuff. A friend that was there was beside me, and reached under the blankets and held my hand, i was nervous and unsure, but as we laid there, i came to realized i have never felt like this before.

We began to hang out every single day, spend 24 hours a day together. We eventually started dating but noone new we kept it a secret. It was the best9 months of my life. We decided we would rather be just best friends, so still today she is my best friend and we randomly kiss while were drunk and dont think twice about it. I am currently dating a guy have been together for 6 months but still have a place in my heart for my best friend and would love to be with her for the rest of my life.

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Lucy

I'm 20yrs old and from the uk. Basically i have always had feeling of what i could be since i was about 12yrs old. I went from the ages of 12-19 thinking i was bi, i tried things with boys but it just never done anything for me and i never felt comfortable. I told a few of my friends that i was bi and everyone was fine with it(didnt tell my best friend until a few yrs down the line)

I met an older guy at the beginning of last yr (2008) on a social website and he just showed interest in me, he was from my town. No-one ever showed interest in me. I let things go further than they shud have (not all the way and not anywhere near 'that') i was so worried what i was getting into coz i new i didnt want anything like that from him. He then introduced me to a friend of his called Hannah, well he text me saying she wanted to sleep with me and he obv wanted in on the action. She txted me and she was not like that atall.

For the next wk we texted and spoke on the phone more or less 24/7. We then met and i have NEVER been so nervous in my life a) because she was a stranger b) i still wasnt certain if i wanted to be with a girl.

It has been the best yr and half of my life, she is my life and i love her so much. I'm glad i went through everything that i did in my teenage years, she has confirmed it for me. Im gay and thats that. Thankfully 99% of my family and friends have been so supportive and very happy for me.

My advice is to live everyday as though its your last, dont worry about what other people think.

Your time will come.

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Christine

My name is Christine Patterson. I am 13 years old and I go to Ponchatoula Jr. High. I discovered I was a lesbian or into girls when I was about 11 years old.I had a couple of boys to throw my parents off but never really liked any of them.My friends didn't know about this until September 21,2009. They say they are cool with it but some of them still act weird around me. One of my friends called me a fag and a bitch so I don't talk to her anymore.I when to get adive from the school help program and she asked me if I knew anyone in my school like me and really didn't have anyone.I really wish that I could find some that i could date that is my age and likes me for me. Not for my skin color,not my looks, and not my money.

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Cheri

Hi everyone, my name is cheri and I'm bisexual. I first realized that I liked girls when I was 11 years old. I always had crushes on boys, like everyday I crushed on a different guy. I in was sixth grade when I met Samantha and had my first girl crush. I think she felt the same way but I'm still not sure. Anyway, I didn't think much of it until seventh grade where I fell in love with my friend Maria. It was love at first sight. I new this even at the young age of twelve. My heart thumped so hard it was difficult to breathe, my stomach did summersaults. I craved her like no other but I never told her I loved her for five years. I also fell in love with my teacher. What started out as a crush developed into a full blown romance. She felt the same about me but we decided not to act on our feelings because of  our age difference. I'm 19 now but we lost contact and to this day I still wait for her. Since then I have met my boyfriend, the love of my life. People say that bisexuals are confused but its not true. I do not have a preference for either sex, I love the person based on his/her character and genuineness. I love the strength and affection of a guy and I love the softness and tenderness of a woman. I have yet to 'come out' to any of my family and its a challenge to keep it a secret because my family is very religious and this will just hurt them as well as disown me. But I don't mind keeping it since I'm very, very particular about my personal life. The only one who knows that I am bisexual is my boyfriend and he accepts me for who I am.
 

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Rachel

Hi I'm Rachel and I'm 19.I literally came out to my family and friends a few days ago, and i can honestly say I've never felt so liberated. Knowing that the people who I love the most love me no matter what means the world to me.

Growing up, I think I always knew I fancied girls, but going to a Christian school all of my life, and coming from what I felt to be quite a judgemental family, always worrying about what other people thought meant that I never allowed myself to accept this. The fear of my mum rejecting me if she ever found out was what scared me the most.

Growing up with two sisters who were into boys, I always felt that what I was feeling wasn't 'normal', it was something to be ashamed of. So I tried my best to be just like them. I had my first serious boyfriend when I was 16 and stayed with him for over a year. I'd convinced myself that I'd live like this forever as the fear of my family finding out was so much worse in my head than living a lie. I still feel that I had true feelings for my boyfriend, and was honestly heart broken when he broke up with me, but I am unsure of whether I was ever truly sexually attracted to him.

After this, I carried on for 3 years going back to guys houses after nights out, telling myself that this was what I wanted until one day I decided enough was enough. I needed to be honest with myself and allow myself to be who I really was, so I plucked up the courage to tell my best friends. I cried as I tried to get the words out but they couldn't have been more understanding. They wondered why I hadn't told them sooner. They still see me as me, and we still have loads in common. I will always love make-up,clothes and shopping. After telling them I couldn't relax atall as I knew that I still had to tell my mum. I mean it's down to the individual as to whether they tell their parents or not, but personally, coming from a close family who I want to share my life with, I didn't feel that I had any other choice. My mum too was amazingly understanding, I felt bad that I'd kind of underestimated her as a parent. And silly in a way for keeping this to myself for so long, when it couldn't have been easier to tell her. She told my sisters for me who both told me that it didnt make a difference to them, I am their sister no matter what, and they will support me and stand up for me n the face of any negativity.

Through all this I feel that I have been made a stronger person. And I definately feel closer to my loved ones. I always feared rejection,but knowing that they will always be there for me is an amazing feeling. They are there because I am worth being there for, gay or straight, I am still Rachel. I just want to say that you should be proud of who you are, be the real you and embrace that. I know that I still have a long way to go on my journey as I have only just made the first steps but I feel strong just thinking about the support I have behind me.Do not be scared to be who you really are.

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Taylor

I am taylor and im a 16 year old junior . I realized was bi in 8th grade. My friend sarah and i had got closer since the previous year and i noticed i was extremely attracted to her. I didnt want to accept it. Myfriends and even me would always pick on the other lesbians at our school and i didnt want to be an outcast. I continued to hide my feelings and tried to fit in, one day at the mall with sarah, i couldnt take it anymore. When we sat down to take a break for a minute i decided to tell her. I looked at her scared and shaky my face turned red. I said " sarah... Im bi". How could something that simple be so hard to say? She said really in an encouraging voice. I never did tell her i loved her as more than a friend. So through the rest of eighth grade i slowly came out. But high school was a different story.

I moved to a different school district my freshman year i had to start all over. Still scared of what everyone thought, i kept it to myself. Until i met a girl who was bi she was my first girlfriend we went out for four months off and on until i realized it wasnt right. I think the pressure of hiding our relationship kept us from actually having one. But even know we thought we hid it completely people knew. As soon as my friends found out it wasnt a secret anymore they thought since they knew everyone should know.  

Come to find out one of my best friends was bi and i had a major crush on her that was freshman year. Sophmore year was when she gave me the chance to be with her. E were together two months and to be honest i had just a little crush. Then we went out a month layer and i fell in love. She is my everything. Even know we are apart today, she will always be my everything. Love doesnt happen in a night and it sure doesnt go away that fast either. Once you find love hold on to it even if you feel like there is no point maybe they will eventually come around!!! Also never hide who you are screw anyone who cant except you for you.  

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Leia

I realised I was a lesbian when I was 18.

When I started high school I met a boy called Ollie. He was amazing and we became the best of friends. After a couple of years of just friendship we realised we were in love with each other and so, when we were 14, we got together. We were together for just over 2 years and when we were 16 we lost our virginity to each other on our prom night. The whole 2 years I never even looked at another girl.

We, not long after, broke up and I started to go out with friends and get drunk ALOT. It was the school holidays so my friends and I got drunk a few times a week. I ended up kissing my friend Emily. It became regular and we would get drunk just so we had an excuse to go with each other. I started to like her the way I normally liked guys. It was strange.

It never went anywhere. We never kissed while sober and never went further than a kiss. I started to fancy girls at school and told close friends. A rumour went around that I was bi, I denied it. I was embarassed and didn't like everybody asking me "Are you bi?!".

When I was 17 I publicly came out. I came out as bi as I thought I still liked guys. I felt so much better now everyone knew! I started to hang out with a lesbian called Lydia. She was amazing, I began to think about her ALL the time. I told her my feelings but she had only just came out of a long relationship with another girl called Daisy. She said she wanted to take things slow. I was so unpatient about this, obviously because I hadn't been with a girl before I think.

Despite the fact that I just wanted her sooner than later we took things slow. It's the best thing I've ever done. After being together for a few months we made love for the first time (well, first time for me). It was so intimate and just at the right time. I won't go into too much detail but we didn't plan it or anything.  

I realised from this that I was a lesbian. I didn't look at guys like I used to. Guys were just friends to me. Lydia and I have been together for 3 years now. It's amazing.

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