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Hey I am nearing 30 and I decided to write this story because I was looking up useful websites for young people to access when thinking about their sexuality (I work in a Support Centre). The stories on this website inspired me to tell my own.

Looking back I always thought I was different, I was a complete tomboy and totally disinterested in boys. I went to university and had a couple of short relationships with boys before I met my boyfriend. He made me mostly happy for 5 years (I used to go out and kiss girls blame it on the drink and apologise) and when he proposed I said yes, thinking that the unsettledness I was feeling was because I wanted to get married. We moved into our own flat and started planning the wedding.

7 months before the big day I went on holiday, a week in France, snowboarding. that was when I first saw her... she was amazing. I had to come home and face the truth I am gay and I could not marry the boy no matter how much I love and respect him. The next weekend I went through to my parents and spent a long time with my mum explaining why I felt I was gay and how I could not go through with the wedding, she kept asking if I was sure and I was and I am! My dad asked me what was wrong and I said I couldn't go through with it because I was gay, he said Gosh and hugged me to let me know it was alright. My friends were thankfully all really great about it, my brother had the best reaction ‚ Ah! that explains the girls rugby!‚LOL.

Telling my fiance was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. It felt like I could see his heart breaking and mine broke with it. We ended on good terms and he is happy with his new girlfriend.

Fast forward two and a half years from meeting the most amazing girl in the world and I have moved across the country, bought a flat, and married her. It has been 3 months since I married my soul mate and I could not be happier! Coming out was the hardest and most painful thing I have ever done but the benefits outweigh the initial suffering. I admit I was lucky my mates all said they knew already when I told them, and I thought I was subtle, ooops.

Go for it guys and girls find what is right for you and make yourself happy no one else can do it for you... :)