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It was on a Monday in November that I lost my virginity at the age of 19. I am slightly ashamed that I only waited for 4 months after dating "him," but there was something different about him. I'd been in serious relationships before but this was better; we were very comfortable together and laughed all the time. We've been dating 1.5 years with plans for our future. I used this website to help reassure me.
I was already on birth control and condoms are excruciatingly painful for me so that's how we did it. I told him that I wanted to have sex with him and he refused to oblige. First I was just joking about it, but he told me that if I still wanted to in a week, then he would agree. He is really sweet and told me that he didn't want to be the one that I would regret doing it with. When it happened I wanted to cry but I stopped myself. I didn't understand why but I was embarrassed and hid it. Sometimes I wish I had waited but he's really serious about marrying me. (If I think about being with him forever, it makes our sex that much better.)
Like everyone says, wait for someone special and I would even recommend waiting until you're 18 at the very youngest. I love my boyfriend and don't regret it although sometimes I wish I had waited longer.
AVERT says: Making choices about sex is difficult, and sometimes we don’t always make the right decision for ourselves- and that’s OK! But it is important that going forward, we make decisions we are comfortable with. If you feel affected by any of these issues, you may find it useful to look at our Am I Ready for Sex for more information.