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I was 16 when I lost my virginity. I always felt pressure to have sex as I knew people around me were. My best friend had recently told me that her and her boyfriend were having sex and this made me feel like I was more of a child then she was.

I was talking to a boy from school (also 16 ) And had  sex 4 times before myself.He invited me over his house the next day to just the next day I went over..when I got there we went straight to his room,he began to kiss me and we ended up snogging.5 minutes later he got up and went to his wallet and got out a condom,he threw it on the bed next to me.he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him,I felt pressured into saying yes  althought I did want to see what all the fuss was about so  I agreed after a hesitation.He put the condom on and then we had sex.It hurt slightly at first but it became less painful.straight afterwards I had regretted what I had done.i wasn't in any relationship with him and I felt that I had been used.

I am now with my boyfriend and have been for 5 months we have talked about having sex but haven't found the right time to.He is a virgin and I love him so much I bitterly regret my first time and I wish I would have waited for it to be special and meaningful.

AVERT says: Making choices about sex is difficult, and sometimes we don’t always make the right decision for ourselves- and that’s OK! But it is important that going forward, we make decisions we are comfortable with. If you feel affected by any of these issues, you may find it useful to look at our Am I Ready for Sex? for more information.