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Ellie
hey, my names ellie and i was 15 i would like to tell you about my first time. it broke my heart. it happened about 6 months ago with my boyfriend billy at the time. we had only been going out for 3 weeks and had done everything else but been besties for a while and friends for years.
so we went to a friends party and it was off and i drank a little more than i usualy do i rekon i took 16 cruisers and a bottle of passion pop ready to get smashed.
well by the time it was about 12 billy was ready to do some stuff and took my hand and lead me to a spare bedroom. i was soo drunk i had no idea what was happening or going to happen and passed out on the floor. i woke up 3 hours later with him naked on top of me. it was pretty obvious what had happened. so i pushed him off me put on my clothes and ran downstairs.
it was horrible and never thought that he would be one to do that i actually thought that i was lucky to be with him cos he treated me really nice but i was wrong. i havnt talked to him since then and he dropped out and got an apprentiship cos people gave him too much sh*t. so no matter what people seem to be you can still never fully trust them.
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Alicia
My name is Alicia 15 turninq 16 nd im here to tell you about my first time .
Well byy now ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 6 months.
nd i knew we was bound to do it sooner or later.I wanted to but at the same time not to him.
So there was one day he asked to come over my house.nd i let him.Me nd him went up to my room
and we was just playing around nd just laughin.Then it got a little too quiet nd he looked kind of serious.
Started to take my shirt off and wanted me to take my bra off.My room hadd air-conditioninq and it was really cold. So he covered me;;and pulled down leggings and underwear.he opened my leggs and asked me am i sure i want to do this and i said yes.
Then he looked at me and said you knoe whats going to happen next right.I was really shy.I was just sayying to my self what the hell am
i doing.I just kept sayin i dont want to in a playfull wayy.But he said well at least we can do somethn else.
So i gave him head for about 3Omins or so.then he said well im going to do it eventually .So i said go ahead.he opened my leggs and
started to lick up and down and it felt weird,wet but started to feel reallly really good.Then i gave him head again then back nd forthh for a while.Then he slipped the condom on and pulled me up to his stomach so i can sit on it.He tried putting it in me and tried really hard but he didnt want to hurt me at the same time.So he asked to try myself.But i couldnt either.I guess i was too tight.SO he started figuring me to make it a little bigger ;that wasnt the best idea becus that really hurt.when i started to putt the bedsheets he stoped.
The nest week we was planning on trying again.Buht no condom was available
so we just did something else.When i did it this time.i just didnt feel right.I felt dirty.
I thought maybee if i just keep going it would stop.When he pushed my head i felt more dirty,
He kept trying to hug me and hold me.I just pushed him away.I didnt want him to leave.But i still felt dirty.When it was time for him to leave i just wanted him out my house.The next morning i still felt dirty. Like i wanted to throw up.No im not pregnant.It all just didnt feel right.
Soo no matter how you want it .Just make sure you want to do it.
Dont do it becus you think its better that way .
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Bianca
Hello, my name is Bianca and i would like to share my story.
Before i lost my virginity i was always asking myself many questions and this forum offered me the best help so now it is my turn to contribute and hopefully my story will help others :) So here it goes:
I have known this guy for the past year and a half and we met at school. We dated for a bit right at the beginning but then we broke up because we figured that we needed to have some time to get to know each other first. And NO, we did not have any sexual interactions whatsoever. We remained "best friends" for a while. After a few good months we started dating again but this time we both felt that it was the right time to become more than friends. So right before christmas i went to his house where we were all alone and we were on his bed cuddling and embracing and kissing. At one point we started touching each other. Then i let him put his hands down into my pants and i allowed him to finger me. Soon after i knew something was going to happen. I started caressing his penis as well and i noticed he had an erection. I was scared for my life! It was a new expirience which i didnt know how to handle. And i did not want to make a fool of myself. But despite the fact that he was not a virgin at the time, he knew that it was my first time so he was very nice about it. He did not enforce anything on me. In fact i was the one who told him that i am ready after he asked me a million times if i am sure that this is what i want to do. SO after a million times saying yes he placed his penis which gently went into my vagina.(He was on top) Well, at least it attempted to. The first times it did not go in and i didnt know why so i got scared and frustrated. And then he told me not to worry, and that i should not try to prove to him that i am brave because he knew that i was brave. He was so nice to me and cared for me and asked me if i was ok and if i wanted to stop almost at every step of the way. I was sure that this was the right moment for me and so it was. As for the pain, well yes, there was a great deal of pain i had to handle but if he loves you enough just his support both physical as well as moral, will make all the pain dissapear. He made all my pain disappear. As for the blood, well i guess it depends with every person. I only bled a few drops. The intercourse went slowly because i was very nervous and tense. At one point he decided to stop and he didnt cumm the first time because we didnt have any condoms since it was very unexpected. The second and third times when we did it were amazing, although i was still in a little bit of pain, but it soon went away. This wraps up my first time sex story. I was 17 at the time almost turning 18 and my boyfriend was already 18 at the time.
Now it has been 7 months and we are still together and we plan on getting married sometime in the near future. My advice to you is to consider your options and make sure that when you decide to lose your virginity you feel ready, confident and comfortable.Do not make decisions you might later regret. if you feel that there is a meaningful bond between you and your partner and also if you feel that your relationship is serious enough, then having sex for the first time may seem like the greatest feeling in the world. It certainly was for me. I hope my story helps and best of luck to all!
Bianca.
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Kady
Here is my first time story.
Okay I was 18 and my boyfriend (Nathan) was 19. We have been friends since I was 3 and he was 3 1/2. But we have been dating since we both have been 12. We have already did fingering and that kind of stuff and one night we were talking about sex. We were in his room (I sleepover a lot, but in a different room. Tonight was different.) kissing and talking when he started taking off my bra and underwear. I knew we were ready and it just came naturally. I just went with it because i knew what was going to happen. He asked, "do you want to lose it to me?" i said yes and he put on a condom. At first it hurt. Really bad. But he was gentle, slow, and listening to what i was saying. When I finally got used to the feeling, he went faster and deeper. It felt amazing ! The whole way through he was saying, 'I love you.'.
After we were done (it probably was 2 hours) i laid in his bed and fell asleep. The next morning there was the tiniest bit of blood on his bed and he cleaned it up in less then 10 minutes. I love Nathan with all my heart and always will.
I'm not going to say, "Make sure you use protection" or "make sure you love them." because EVERYONE says that. But I'm going to say that you will know when its time and who the person you're having sex with is right. You'll know. If you have to think about it then don't do it.
Me & Nate are still together and staying strong. :)
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Melissa
Hello there, my name is Melissa, and I want to tell you about my first time.
I lost it to my boyfriend of a month, on our month-iversary. I had liked him for a really long time, and being 15, I felt that the only way I could show him my love for him, was to sleep with him. He came over to my house to spend this special day with us, and we decided to watch movies. Considering my mother was home, we went in my garage, where we could have the most privacy. Something in the movie scared me, causing me to jump in his arms. We cuddled for a little bit before I looked up at him. I had been worried for about a week because I felt our relationship was becoming more distant, and I thought he was going to break up with me. Apparently he could tell I was upset about something becuase he said the look on my face was 'unbearable'. He gently lifted my face to his and we began to kiss. After making out for a little while, he gently laid me on the couch, opened my legs a little bit, and laid himself on top of me. It was then that he asked me if I was "ready". I searched in his eyes to see if he was the person I felt I could do this with. I said "yes" and he slowly pulled off our clothes.
There really wasn't much need for foreplay, since he knew where my hotspots were, and turned me on with simply that. It happened so fast, I didn't even know what was going on until it was over. I couldn't really focus on the pain (since it was over just as fast as it had begun) but I do remember a little bit of pain when we first started.
Because I didn't feel anything the first time, I didn't want to tell him and make him feel disappointed, so I asked if he would like to do it again. The second time was a lot better; a lot more passionate. I orgasmed a few times, and I guess I was loud because that's when my mom walked in. She immediately ordered that he get out of the house, and he did. Later that night she told me if I was going to live with her, I had to break up with him. Having no other place to live, I ended my relationship with him that night.
But because I was so 'in the moment' while we were having sex that night, I forgot to ask him if he had a condom. Due to my stupidity, I am stuck with AIDS. Since I wasn't safe, I am stuck with a disease that could possibly kill me. My advice, always use a condom.
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Katelyn
Hi, I'm Katelyn and would like to share my story:
My first time was not as I hoped it would be and I do regret it. I was only fourteen and dating my first boyfriend(15) for about 5 weeks when I gave away my virginity to him. He has been over my house a couple of times before that without supervision and we had progressively gotten more intense. I never felt comfortable with what we did and did not know him that well but I hoped that if I did these things, he would love me and I wouldn't be alone. One day, he was fingering me and said how it would feel amazing if we had sex. I tried to protest but I've always had a problem saying no. He said he would only put it in for a moment so I allowed him. It wasn't a sharp pain as I had read about and was a bearable pain physically; emotionally though, I was devastated. As soon as he left, I felt dirty and disgusted with myself. I took a steaming hot shower and cried for hours. I never told him how upset I was but he always questioned why I would cry after ever y time we had sex. Our personalities were very different as well: I'm much more of a romantic and very shy/quiet person while he was confident and loud-spoken. After him constantly testing if I loved him (from flirting with other girls to make me jealous or almost hurting me), and really pressuring me to have sex with him on multiple occasions (when I actually did say no a few times), I ended our relationship after a year and 8 months.
After leaving my boyfriend, my best friend (who has loved me and I have secretly loved him for a very long time) asked me out November 19, four weeks later. Almost 7 months later, we are very open with each other, still haven't had sex (he is a virgin and I'm not ready yet), and are extremely happy and in love. I really wanted to post my story to warn others to wait for until you really know you're with the right person because a relationship should be built on love and understanding, not sex. I know when the day comes that my loving best friend and I are ready for sex, it will be well worth th e wait and absolutely amazing.
Also, you should ALWAYS use protection!! My ex boyfriend always said how he felt "closer to me" without a condom or any other protection so we usually did without. One time, my period was 4 weeks late due to stress about thinking I'm pregnant and an upcoming 20 minute oral presentation for my class; it was the worst four weeks of my life. Every night, I was in constant fear of pregnancy and the look on my mom's face if I had to tell her I was. My advice: wait for the right person and be safe~ Thank you for reading my story.
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Caleb
My name is caleb and my first time was last weekend, i am 14.
Me and my girlfriend of 6 months had sex last weekend for the first time.. We both love each other alot and were sure that we were ready. This is wat happend..
When we first started dating she was real shy, we talked and thats about it. After a while we started to hold hands and stuff like that. We kissed and had some fun. We started getting serious and she started talking about sex and stuff. I asked her if she was sure and she always said yes im positive. So we had to wait a little while till we had some time alone. Last weekend she invited me over to her house i went and she was home alone. We started watching movies and started making out.. It was getting hot and heavy so we ran upstairs into her room and continued to make out and take off each others clothes. I asked her if she was sure and she said yes so i took out a condom and we did the 69 position for a little to get her wet. I asked her i she positive and kept saying yes! So when i first went in her i took thimgs slow amd kept asking if she was ok. After we took things slow she started sayimg faster and harder so we did it till we were exhausted then finished it off with 69 again. We got our clothes back on and i stayed at her house that nite..
Remember to make sure u r positive that u want to and r ready to have sex. If u think u will regret it then dont do it! MAKE SURE U R BOTH READY!!
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Christie
Hi my name is Christie I'm 24 in my last year of schooling. So I have a really big crush on this guy called Jayson he is one year older than me but we are in the same grade he is like the most popular guy in school. I play guitar and he thinks I play well but he acts like I'm invisible. So one day it was the last day until summer break i was playing guitar in the school garden so he pulled me to a really quiet corner of the garden where we were hiding behind a tree and then he says I love you and then kisses me like he licks an icecream! I say i love you back then he tells me that his parents are out of town for a couple of weeks and that he wants me to come over to his house. My parents happen to be out of town so I said yes.
When we got there we watched School of Rock and laughed alot then we went up to his room. My mom is from Sicily so I kinda have big breasts so we lied down and we started snogging and we did that for like ten minutes so he asks me if I want to do it so I say yes.
He started taking our clothes off and then he took off my bra. I lied down on the bed and he starts to have foreplay. He says Are you ready and I say yes and he kisses me lightley all the way and says If you want me to come out then just say so. The slowly he fingers my vagina and gets me wet then enters. man it reallllllllllllyyyyyyyyyy hurt like hell. it was like someone snapped a rubberband in my vagina.
After that night I started to feel nauseous all the time and slept 13 hours everyday. So I text Jayson and we go buy a pregnancy test and I found out I was pregnant. Now my baby is 3 months old and her name is Alissa.
My Tip for girls with crushes: tell your crush incase you become an unexpected parent!
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Its love
Its love...My boyfriend and i have been going out for just over a year and a half now. We first decided to have sex for the first time when we had been going out for 6 months and were a few months into year 11. I knew i was ready because i've always known he was my soulmate. In previous relationships i had been very shy with all the touching and had only kissed a guy once (more like he was too shy and gave me a peck). When we started going out after a few months we couldnt keep our hands off eachother, sneaking into the shed and making out for hours on the sofa. It eventually lead to dry sex, which usually caused me to climax.
One night we were up late by ourselves and went and lied down in my bed. We had talked about sex heaps before and knew we wanted to do it but we always thought we never had the chance since my parents were always around and i hadnt been over to sleep at his house yet (his parents are way cooler and understandable than mine by far). We were making out heaps and i just decided to ask him if we should have sex. He agreed and we took all our clothes off except for my long boob tube which i kept down at my waist incase some one walked in. The door wasnt even completely shut with my parents in the next room! We barely did any foreplay and just tried to put it straight in. The pain was not pleasent at all. It felt like something tearing and stretching but i knew if i just went through it this one time i wont ever have to deal with it again. We knew i wouldnt be able to come so he just came instead. It wasnt awkward at all afterwards and we just layed there cuddling and he was making sure i was ok. The next few times we managed to have sex it was better but i couldnt really feel much. It was only on the fourth time we had sex that i came. Since then we think ourselves as experts in the subject and have tried practically everything you can ever think of. Sex has made me really confident mentally and physically and now i can walk around him butt-naked without feeling the need to be shy or cover up.
We're turning 18 soon and will be leavin school and moving out together. My advice for those thinking about sex for the first time is to find the right person to do it with. I knew i was ready because i was in love and knew it was the right time. Never do it because everyone else is doing it or if you have any doubts. Its ok to wait if you feel your not ready.
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Maya
Hi.
My name is Maya and I want to share the story about my first time.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a month and a half now. However, we had been together before some months ago but broke up. He is 18 and I am 16. We would always have arguments before so we finally just ended it. I told him I wanted to end all contact with him because it seemed we couldn't still be friends afterwards. I didn't really want to do it because I loved him but I did it anyway because I thought it was best for me. I thought that was the only way I could get over him. It didn't work. Through those months I would purposefully go to his class during lunch just to see him. I would wonder if he was looking at me when I wasn't looking. I would think about him all the time.
Finally, things were getting down to the wire and the school year was coming to a close. I'd gone through the whole year without talking to him and it was almost time for him to graduate and leave. My best friend kept telling me to talk to him before it was too late. I thought he hated me. Finally, I summed up the courage to talk to him and went to his art class. No one was in the class except for the teacher and I panicked. I talked to my teacher and she convinced me to stay. When he came in I called him over. He looked surprised...and for a moment...all the rehearsing I had done went right out the window. I lost all train of thought and just gave him a huge hug and apologized. We talked until the class was over. For some days afterwards, we talked on the phone until 12am....sometimes even 2am. One day....May 9th...he asked me out again.
So we started over...but this time with some resolutions. Our relationship has been going great...with a few disagreements here and there but nothing major. On June 15th, 09' we had sex. Since no one came to school because it was the last week, we went to my house. We hung out for a while and then fooled around a little. At one point he asked if we could try and have sex. I was afraid, and quickly responded by saying I wasn't ready. He responded with an "okay," but looked a little disappointed. We laid next to each other for a while and I fell asleep. When I woke up, he was staring at the wall.
I started thinking about doing it. I knew I loved him...and I'm probably one of the most paranoid people on earth. A month beforehand, I made a trip after school to a clinic and picked up some FREE condoms and birth control pills. I have been on the pills for a month. After thinking for a while, I looked at him and asked if we could try then. He looked sort of put off by the question, and then asked me if I was sure. He looked as if he didn't want to, but reassured me. I hesitated, but then rummaged around my drawer for a condom. He asked for foreplay so we began to fool around again and he played with and licked my breasts. Afterwards, he opened my legs and I told him to pull out if I asked. He agreed and then slowly entered me.
It stung for a minute, and I let him stay in until I felt it hurt too much. I asked him to pull out for a second and then gave him the okay. He entered me again, and that time it hurt alot less. I told him it didn't hurt and he started to go faster. It started to feel really good, and soon we were both really into it. It was memorable to say in the least. We even had sex again the next day. It was my first time...and the best time. I don't think it would have been the same if I didn't love him and much as I do.
P.S.
Make sure when you have sex with someone that you are positive you want to do it and you love the person very much. It make's for a much more comfortable experience.
And USE PROTECTION! Take every precaution necessary. Nothing is worth your life. Not even sex. Period.
I hope my story helps...and thanks for taking the time to read...^_^
~Maya
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Lita
Hi my name is Lita and this is what my first time is like and what i think about sex before marriage.
Well, I was fourteen and Phillip was sixteen. I had messed around with other guys before, basically done everything but have sex and I had wanted to start having sex for a while. (I said "wanted to start having sex" because that's very different from wanting to just lose your virginity. I wanted sex to be a part of my life, I didn't have sex just to get rid of my virginity.)
Anyway I was talking to him over IM and I invited him over to have sex. We had never really talked before that but I had always been attracted to him and I could tell he was attracted to me. He didn't think I was serious but he came anyway and basically we had sex in his car. He was a virgin too, and he was really surprised when I told him that I wanted to go farther than oral, even though I had said that we could over IM. I was glad that I was the one setting the bar for how far we should go, not him. He didn't expect anything out of me that I didn't want to give him. There was a lot of great foreplay but we didn't have sex for very long, maybe thirty minutes. It hurt a bit, but I didn't bleed until the next day when I bled a little. The thing about the pain is that it only lasted about a second, maybe a little more. And it didn't keep on hurting after it was over. I mean it wasn't a lingering pain or anything. He was a great choice to have sex with because he INSISTED that we use a condom, even when I said that I didn't care. And I didn't come, but it felt really nice to have him inside me!
That wasn't that long ago and we haven't talked but maybe we'll hook up again someday. I don't mind that I didn't have a bond to him before we had sex because to me sex is about fun not commitment. I could never have waited until after marriage to have sex because I have always wanted to see what sex feels like and experience the pleasure that everyone talks about. I know that some people would disaprove of my decision to have sex so young but I don't see anything wrong with it. I think that a lot of girls regret having sex with a guy who ends up cheating on them or with whom they break up because of how society looks on "your first time". It's supposed to be this HUGE deal, when it's really just a great way to share fun and pleasure with someone. If we were not so apprehensive of the first time we have sex, then we would understand that how losing your virginity turns out does NOT set the tone for the rest of your life, sexual or otherwise.
Losing your virginity is not the end of anything, but the beginning of a GREAT thing: your sex life! We should be programmed to understand that not that much depends on your first time.
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Liv
Hi, my name is Liv and I am 16 years old.
Last week I lost my virginity to my girlfriend of three years. We have wanted to have sex for a while, but decided to wait until we were sure that we were ready.
I met Claire at school when I was 13 and the new kid. She showed me around and soon we became friends. After a while, she invited me to sleep over at her house. At this time I had already known that I was gay and had a massive crush on her. The sleep over was going well and her mom had to come in to tell us to stop being so noisy and go to sleep. I was starting to fall asleep when I felt a hand on mine. I turned over and kissed her. The rest is history I guess..
Last Friday my parents left for a weekend wedding, leaving me home alone. Claire and I had decided that this would be the perfect time to have sex. I was so nervous, but as soon as I saw her, that all disappeared. We decided to watch TV for a little bit and quickly started kissing. I said "Are you ready?" and she said yes. I took of her shirt and she took of mine. We continued to make out and then she let me remove her bra. I played with her nipples for a while. She stopped me and asked if I was sure. I said yes and asked if she was and she said yes.
I lifted her onto my bed and slowly took off her pants.I told her that I would stop whenever she needed me to. I pushed into her very slowly and she yelped but told me to keep going. I did and after a while she started to breathe heavily and told me to push harder and faster. I did this and she had an orgasm and came. I licked her for a little bit, but then she decided it was my turn. She told me that she would stop if I needed it and I took of my pants. She gave me a lick for a little bit and before I could come, she started to push into me. She went slowly and it hurt like hell. She kept going and it started to feel really good. Finally, I had a orgasm and she pulled out. We fell asleep for about three hours.
When we woke up, we were both in the mood. I fingered her for a while and we had sex again. The next morning we were both sore but it was worth it.
I think that because we waited and knew we loved each other, it made it all the more special. We also were safe and made sure we knew each other's sexual history. Claire and I have had sex again after that night and will continue to. We will be safe and make sure we want to each time.
So, my advice is BE SAFE! and BE SURE!!! It makes it really enjoyable. Thanks for reading.
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Kay
My name's Kay and i'm 16 yes old.
This story may be a little complicated. Well it all started at my high school's BBQ. It was the last day for seniors before they graduated and I was a junior waiting to start my senior year off with a bang. Anyway at the BBQ I saw a senior friend who lived near me and asked him to take me home(even though I already had a secure ride). He said he didn't drive to school but his friend who I usally flirt was taking him. So I asked his friend just to see what he would say and he said yes, not a big surprise. We continued to flirt, he signed my yearbook and when he was ready to leave he asked me if I was going. I kindly declined. About 20 minutes later the other senior friend whom lives near me calls me and asks where I am and can they come over to chill for a little. Like a dummy I say yes and this master plan is in action.(keep in mind my parents aren't home through out the time) So the two boys come over and my bestfriend who took me home. At first we were all talking in my basement and my bestfriend had to leave to go to crosscountry practice. Then we all went into the living room except for my somewhat "crush". Seconds later he calls my name and I know what this means..
So I go downstairs and he's sitting on the coach so I sit next to him and we start talking. Then ever so quickly we started kissing and soon I was on my knees giving him head. After that he asked me if we could go all the way and then I started to panic because I wanted to but I was nervous but then I got over it and next thing I know we were both naked. He warned me that it would hurt and he would stop at any point. I told him to continue so he did and when he put it in it hurt like hell! He went slow then faster and we switched positions all while my friend was upstairs watching tv. Then we stopped and finished it off with giving him head. Then we got dressed and went back upstairs and he left. He gave me his number and told me to text him later that day. Then hours later I went to my girl's house and we walked around the neighborhood like usual. We went to my exboyfriend's grandmom's house cause that's where we usually end up. His grandmom wasn't home as usual and we hung out in her house. Then my exboy told me he had something to show me and made me promise not to be upset. Then he showed me some text messages from the boy I did earlier talking so much trash about me. I really wanted to cry but I didn't because I was to angry. Then me and him went into another room and talked. He tried to comfort me. Then we started to kiss and slowly removed items of clothing. Then he tried to have sex with me with out a condom and promised to pull-out. I refused to go any further until he got one. He had to text around for a while and left and returned with one. And then we started back up again. Then we finally did it and it hurt like a bitch, worse than earlier. But again it got better.
It felt more right when me and him did it then with the other boy. Yes it was very whorish of me to have two partners in the same day but I so regret it now. I don't even talk to my first and we didn't even speak at his graduation. It's kind of sad but I'm glad I used protection both times.
The moral of the story is to wait and have sex with a person who actually cares about you then with a senior who is graduating the next day and couldnt care less about what happens to you.
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Claire
Hello, my name is Claire and the first time I hade sex was when I was 12 years old back in January.
It was a weekend and my parents were away that evening as they had to attend the wedding anniversarry of one of their friends. Anyway, I was crazy about this guy named Darren who lived next door. We knew each other in school and he was a few months older than me. We were classmates and next-door neighbors but he does not know that I have a major crush on him.
So I invited him over that evening to watch some DVDs.
We were in my room just watching and then he asked me if I felt something about him. I can't answer back because he might laugh if I said yes and it was too embarassing. But then he told me that he loved me and then my heart just beat like hell. Then I told him that I loved him too. I gave him a kiss and then he asked me if I wanted to make-out so I said yes. We started making out on my bed and before I knew it our clothes were off except for our underwear. He then asked me if I wanted to have sex because I could change my mind after we were done having foreplay.
So we had some foreplay first, I started giving him a blowjob and after that he played with my breasts which were still a little flat. Then he gave me a lick. He then asked me again if it was okay if we had sex because he was into it now having an erection and all. I said yes and he asked me again because he said that he had no condom. I told him that he could just pull out or he could also come inside me because I have not yet started menstruating.
So I lay down in bed and I prepared myself as he placed his penis inside my vagina. It hurt at first, but then as it continued, I started to enjoy it. Then he stopped for a moment and I felt something different with it. Then he continued again and he told me that he had just come inside me and he wanted me to come as well. After about thirty minutes I came and it was then that he told me that he had actually come in me twice.
We got dressed and when my parents got back it seemed like we were just watching television.
A month later, I started feeling sick all the time, I started getting nauseous and a more tired. I didn't want to think pregnancy was the deal because I had no way of telling it from my menstruation because I have not even had it. When we were at my Aunt's place, I saw in their bathroom a pregnancy test. So I locked the bathroom and I took the test and there it showed that I was pregnant.
I started researching on this thing and I found out that the egg is released before menstruation. It probably turned out that I had sex the time of my first ovulation. I told Darren and my parents. At first my parents were angry and Darren didn't talk to me, but we have finally decided to keep this child. Darren on the other part was told by his parents not to see me again but we are trying to resolve the issue.
I am five months pregnant, and I am telling you girls out there. USE PROTECTION!!! Even though you have not yet menstruated YOU CAN STILL BECOME PREGNANT!!!
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Sara
Hi, my name is Sara and my partners name is Josh. I am 17 and he is 16, we both have birthdays next month though
I lost my virginity last night. 6/8/09 in the comforrt of my own bed.
I met Josh five years ago on halloween night............ I was 13 and didnt believe in love at first sight until i saw him. and we became best friends really quickly, but in the back of my mind i kept falling harder and harder for him. Last year he told me he loved me too. We sat up on a hill together, he was smoking and i was staring. He told me before we left my house that I should suck him off. and so we stood there, i was debating in my mind whether or not to do it. I wanted to sooooo bad. But i hadnt even had my first kiss.. let alone given a boy a blow job. he kissed me, just a peck, hes never been one for kissing, and i went crazy. before i knew it the deed had been done. time went on, and we fought and made up and fought and made up over and over again. we never considered ourselves dating, only friends with benifits. he didnt kiss me from that day forward, only held my hand and got his dick sucked. He wouldnt even tell me he loved me.
Until last night.
We didnt talk for 9 months, from September until now. I remeber the last night vividly, we sat in my room and he couldnt even look me in the eye. and I just laid there next to him wishing he would hold my hand, kiss me or something. i felt so hurt. and we didnt talk for so long. until the other day when i recieved a text message from him. we started texting and when i got off work i called him. we stayed up until 1 like we did back when we cared about nothing more than each other. all i could think about was the few times his hands held mine.... and the one time his lips brushed mine. Yesterday we were texting and i decided to invite him over. and he came, well, i had to go get him because his power steering is out.... but anyways..... when we walked in my mom wanted to talk to him and it seemed like she was never going to shut up. i just kept looking at him. it was just nice to have him around. he told me the other day that he was stupid and that it didnt feel right not having me around..... that he needed me. so once my mom shut up we walked into my room and layed down on my bed. we started watching you tube videos on my lap top and i layed my head on his shoulder... then before i knew it we were holding hands. we put the laptop up and started to cuddle.
I started wispering in his ear the things i'd wanted to say and he told me the things he wanted to say, even the ones i didnt want to hear, but they were mostly what sealed the deal. hes never been one for kissing, but when i told him i felt like i had to be kissed everyonce and a while we kissed, and we kept it up all night. then we started making out off and on. we started stroking eachother and we decided we wanted to do it. we were going to go all the way. I went out in the living room first to make sure there wasnt a chance my mom would walk in, and there wasnt a chance and that sealed it.... it was happening.
i went back into my room and reclaimed my position next to him and told him it was clear. before i knew it i was kissing his chest and working my way to his pants. i un did his belt and jeans then we pulled his bottoms all the way down. i went down on him for a couple seconds then told him i wanted him on top because i had no clue what i was doing. i laid on my back and he took my shorts and underwear off, then parted my legs. he began to finger me to get me wet, but i was already somewhat there. then he put it in me, he was gentle, but it still hurt like hell at first. he went in and out in and out in and out for a little while and then fingered me again to get me wetter. then re entered, by this time it didnt hurt anymore, and it felt really good. we kept kissing through out the entire time and at one point i dug my nails into his back..... and he left with a few hickies. we didnt use a condom so when he was getting ready to cum i had to use my mouth. through out we joked and told eachother we loved eachother. and kissed, i'm a pro at making out now. =D
after he came, and i came like three times, we laid there in eachothers arms and gazed into eachothers eyes, until we decided to put our clothes on and i had to take him home.
On the way home he asked if my cherry had been popped before and i told him no. he said he didnt see any blood, but he saw it when he got home and took a pic and sent it to me with a note underneath "yeah, it popped"
but the best part was the drive home. he only lives a couple blocks away, so it was short, but the hand i wasnt driving with held his and when he got out of the car we told each other we loved eachother and kissed.
I really am in love with him. =D
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Shawna
Hi, my name is Shawna, and i want to share my first time....
I had just turned 16 a few months before hand. I met a guy named Jesse, the previous year and dated him about a half month after i turned 16. A few days before i was going to go visit my father in another state, i went with Jesse to his family runion, and after we headed to his house. His parents were in the house and we went outside. He took me to a camper he had in his backyard. He started kissing me really passionatly, and i thought i loved him. He asked if we could have sex, i wasn't sure and i hesitated, and he said it was fine if we didn't but he hung his head. Since i thought i loved him i gave in..... i'm just thankful we used a condom. We arn't together anymore. He kept getting more and more sexual and it seemed like that was all he wanted. He turned out to be a jerk and flirted with people right in front of me. So I dumped him.
P.S. Be absolutely sure you love the person before you give them your virginity, you just might regret it in the future if you don't....
-Shawna
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