Anthony

I’m 16 years old, it was my birthday, only a week ago, and me and this girl, who I’ve been going out for 2 years. She has never done it before, and I have done it a lot before, with a lot off girls, we don’t live near each other, but i always go too see her, when she wants me too,

For my birthday we stayed in a hotel with each other :)

i got off the train and we talked for a bit then, got a taxi too the hotel, and they booked in the hotel, and we got into bed. I did not plan it then we would just get in the bed and just have sex right away but we did. She started cuddling me and kissing me, and she got on top, and i got her shirt n top off :).  Then I put her on her back and took her jeans off, and rub her knickers. I took my top and jeans off, then took her knickers off :)

Then i put it in, and it was good, and she moan soo much, we ended up doing loads off thing, and have sex for like a hour :)

I love her more than anything in the world and it mean a lot too me n her, I just wish, I met her when I was a V

The story is dont just shag anyone, wait for someone you really like or love, because i wish i lost my V with the girl Im with now 

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Unknown

My first time was with someone I knew fairly well.

I knew that he had a thing for me, he had been trying for three years. I just wanted and still want to be friends with him. I invited him over to my house, just to hang out and watch movies. I sat at the opposite end of the couch to him, so that he wouldn't get the wrong idea, but he just moved closer. He put his arm around me, and tried to kiss me, I tried to resist, but I didn't want to hurt his feelings. We ended up having sex on my loungeroom floor. I didn't enjoy it at all, it didn't hurt or anything like that but it was just sex, there was no pleasure.

Later on in that same week, I went to a party and he was there, he didn't speak a word to me and he was there with another girl, which turned out to be his girlfriend that I didn't know he had. Even though I didn't want to be with him it still stung me deep, because the only reason I went through with it was because I wanted to spare his feelings. It also hurt me because it was my first time, and it meant absolutely nothing to him, as he didn't have the decency to tell me he had a girlfriend.

I honestly don't believe that people enjoy their first time, but it creates a confidence in you, which makes sex more pleasureable in future.

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Ashlie

I have been reading many stories here, many of them seem to have something to criticise within, im just here to advise. There's no more then that I can do.

Im a 15 year old female and I recently lost my virginity. About 3-4 weeks ago. I lost it with my boyfriend who is also one of my best-friends. we get along perfectly, always having a laugh and a joke around with each other, play fighting is the usual. we have always been close and always felt comfortable talking with each other about anything.

We were completely clean before we met each other, we had only kissed someone else. We had always been fine with fumbling, fingering, tossing off etc.. then we took it a step further and I gave him oral. I was nervous at first but realising how much we love each other, it wouldn't matter if either of us made a mistake because we understand each other, I carried on and it was fine.

One weekend, we became quite horny but unfortunately I was on my period so we ended up just having dry sex and me giving him a few things. the thing was we both felt so ready; but we waited..

2 weekends after, we both woke up at 3am and we cuddled, kissed, and one thing led to another, he stopped and asked me if I was ready. I felt ready, it felt right, always when we do stuff together it feels so loving, not just like a casual thing to get off. its always really loving and meaningful. and to be honest, it didn't hurt, I didn't bleed, and I most deffinatley do not regret it. I didn't achieve proper pleasure from it until the third time.

I advise any girl wanting to lose her virginity, wait till you know for CERTAIN that you love someone, regardless of what age you are, wait for the right person. if your 13 or 19 it doesn't matter, just wait, most deffinatley wait till its with someone you love because it makes it all so much better for you and you will love it if you wait!

Good luck xxxxxxxx
 

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Kylie James

Well everything started when I was 12.......

Me and this guy Jason had been going out for about a week nothing serious we were only 12 but when we turned 13 things changed! Our hormones got the better of us!

I won't lie...it really hurt but I don't regret doing it! I think it made me stronger a person. Our families never would of found out if I hadn't become pregnant!

Jason's family was so mad they made us break-up! Then as if that wasn't bad enough they moved away.

My family was angry too but they never turned their backs on me! I'm very happy about that! I don't know what I would do without them!

I'm 17 now and I recently ran into Jason! He isn't the same person he used to be! So just because your in love with someone now dosen't mean you always be!'cause people change!

I'm not saying you need to wait.....I'm saying you need to be prepared!

Remember comdoms, the pill, know what your doing, know that their is ALWAYS a chance of becoming pregnant no matter how safe you are,and lastly make sure you love your partner!

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Makaylah

Well....where to begin....well there was this boy i had liked and been friends with since the 4th grade.
My birthday is in january and i was only 14

His name was braylon and he was great. It didnt occur to me that i was going to date him until we started talking dirty for fun on the phone, then out of nowhere he asked me out. We dated for a few months (7) then i got the news that he was moving to texas with his dad.

We were alone at his house and I got enough courage to ask him. (are you going to leave a virgin)
he replied  (are you going to make me leave one?) So we started kissing and touchin all over, and then it just happened. He only lasted a few minutes but to me those few minutes changed my life forever.

That day we concieved a baby girl. I went to a pregnancy camp until i had her, my parents told me I either I give it up for adoption or get out of there house. MY baby girl named emma was given up for adoption the minute she left my womb. Now 17 years later, i have never seen her touched her, played with her, anything.

To this day her birth father who is my friend on myspace, whom i talk to almost every day and he does not know about anything that happened. He now has a beautiful wife, 2 kids and twins on the way.
But the question * should i have waited to lose my virginity? * will haunt me forever. Cause my honestly answer to that question is yes. I should have waited...

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Lexi

I first lost my virginity when i was 14. i am know 17. me and my boyfriend (who's name i wont say) had been together for about 7-8 months and we had started allthe kissing, holding hands ect and he one day we were talking and he asked me if i was ready to have sex. i told him that i wasnt sure but that i would think about it as my parents were out of town for a few days. eventually i plucked up the courage to ring him so i did, i told him that i wasnt ready but that he could still come over if he wanted to, so he said yes. when he came in i told him to come up to my room so we could wotch telly. i fell back and layed on my bed and then he layed on top of me and started kissing me.. and i let him i dont knew why. before i knew it we were both naked and having sex. it hurt at first and i screamed for him to stop but he kissed me and told me to lay back and enjoy it and thats what i started to do. then he got up and told me that i had to leave him to sort himself out. then in a couple of days when i saw him again i told him i was pregnant and he took it really well. we talked about it and decided that we would keep it and look after it. i lived at his for a while so my parents wouldnt know a thing.when i had the baby he was there for me and i realised that i wanted to be with him forever. and we still are together with a beautiful daughter but dont make the same mistake i did getting pregnant at 14 is not a good idea im not saying dont do it, just be careful and use protection.

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Jenni

I had been dating Kyle for almost 2 1/2 years. We started dating when we both were 14. Kyle is a very respectable guy. He understood my wishes of not having sex til I was 18. I don't think he knew how serious I was. Kyle and I both love each other to death. For almost 2 1/2 years Kyle never once asked me to have sex with him. He always knew how controversial my feelings were. I wanted to please my parents and stay a virgin I wanted to keep my promise to myself and stay a virgin til I was 18, I didnt want to get pregnant but I wanted to give Kyle what he wanted and what I so badly wanted.

So for 2 1/2 years he never asked until august. He finally asked me to have sex with him. Thankfully it was over texts so I could reject him easier. I hated it so much. I wanted to give in. I wanted it so bad. So after two weeks of rejection I finally let go. I went over his house and things were getting heated. Saying no for those two weeks was so hard. I finally told him I wanted it. He was confused on what to do. He knew I wanted to wait. But he knew I wanted it. But after a few minutes debate we did it. It was so wonderful experencing that with Kyle.

Loving him so much made it so amazing. Suprisingly I felt no pain only pleasure. I think it's cuz we were fooling around prior to. Cuz the second time hurt a bit cuz we just went right into it. But it was so amazing. Sex has made our relationship so much better. I was so stressed out from saying no all the time and rejecting him that it was tearing us apart alittle bit. Kyle and I now enjoy a very healthy wonderful safe sex life. My piece of advice for anyone is to wait for that special someone. It makes it all the better. If they are willing to wait 2 1/2 years and not ask once I'd say that is a respectable person who just might deseve you. But if they pressure you then I don't think they're worth yyour time of day.

Sex is Wonderful if it's with the one you really love. You want someone who will be there if things go wrong. Not ditch you in your time of need. So find find your Kyle like me before you make a big decision about sex with someone.  

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Minnie

I was 13 when I lost my virginity. I regret it so much when I look back..

I met a guy of my dreams at my new middle school, and I believed we were a "destiny" from the start when he asked me out. After breaking the "who went out the longest" record in our school, I was truly beginning to believe myself, that I loved him. Sadly, his parents went out of town for a couple days and he invited me over. I thought he didn't mean anything specific when he  said we were going to "hang out." Nevertheless, I went to his house and we went straight to his room.

He turned on the TV and motioned for me to come and sit down onto his bed. I did as I was told and as soon as I did, he went on top of me. I panicked, but I remembered some of the porons my friends and I watched on a dare once. This was the part where the guy "makes his move." I tried to stay cool, but I couldn't help myself from shaking nervously. He noticed, but didn't care. He started kissing me and then took off my shirt. I have some baby fat and was very uncomfortable laying there with my bra. He (once again) didn't mind and went straight to what he was doing. First my shirt, my pants, my bra.. then my underwear. I was too nervous to notice that he too, took off his underwear and everything else. Then he led my hands down to his throbbing penis.

First, I was slightly grossed out but realized that a penis looked different then I imagined it would look like. When he noticed that I was into looking at his penis, he flipped me over, and entered me. First, it was hurting so much, I burst out crying. He told me not to worry, and kept at it. Slowly, it began feeling better, and at last, I was shrieking because it felt SO GOOD. However, after a while, it was getting pretty dark so I put my clothes on and called my mom to pick me up. He too, put his clothes on and we both went outside the driveway.

Couple months later, we broke up. Then a week later after that, I began to feel... sick. I can't quite describe it. I loved sweet things, but I couldn't bear myself to eat it. Then I got so scared... So I went to the drug store and bought a home-test pregnancy test. Actually, I stole it because I was too ashamed. Then the result came out as.. positive. I first called him, scared out of my mind. Then he said he didn't know a THING about what I was talking about. The sex.. EVERYTHING. He told me to get lost and he avoided me at school.

I am too scared to tell anyone.. So My baby is 3 months old, and I'm afraid that if I keep it a secret any longer, people are going to notice..

I.. don\'t know what to do..

Guys, sex isn't everything that people think of. It's not cool to do it just because they push you. Know it for yourself, that the result won't be pretty. Because you might wind up like me right now. Scared, and pregnant.

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Lucy

I was 18 years old when I first lost my virginity.

I had never really been in a relationship, but this wasn't just a relationship. I'd know my boyfriend since Jr high, but it wasn’t until the beginning of grade 12 that he had become my best friend.

At first we were only friends with benefits, which was fine, but then I decided it was time to try a relationship. When we started dating, we were both virgins, and openly talked about sex and any other matter, neither of us were very shy around the other.

Before losing it, we had done other things, so sex was pretty hyped up for us. He came over one afternoon when both my parents were at work, and I told him to bring a condom. We were watching a movie, and then started getting in the mood. He left to the bathroom to put it on, and by this time I started getting really nervous, although I'm not sure why, because by this point in time, I knew I loved him, and I wanted to do this. When he came back we proceeded to kiss, touch and what not. Knowing him, I thought he would make it clear he would be gentle, or ask if it hurt, but he didn\'t at all. It was more, slide in and thrust. I was surprised at first, because I felt no pain at all, but at the same time, I didn\'t feel too much pleasure either, it was just kind of, happening. After we just laid in bed and talked, but about nothing important. It just seemed like another day. I do kind of wish it was a little different then it was, but everyone's first time story is different.

I wanna stress on safe sex! I would never have sex without birth control or a condom! Please be safe! It really is worth it!

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Kelsey Jane

Mine and My Boyfriend shared our first time on our 6 month anniversary. We are both 17!

We had been talking about our first time for a while now, discussing the mixed feelings we had, and how we were nervous and inexperienced. For our six month anniversary I decided to dress up in my lingerie, he had never seen me in anything like this before so naturally he was turned on. He began to kiss me tenderly and run his arms up and down my body, this got me turned on and I told him I was ready and I wanted to take it to the next step.

So we got a condom from the draw, and he proceeded to lay me down on my bed, he was gentle and soft so I felt completely comfortable with him and allowed him to take my clothes off. We kept making out as he unwrapped and placed the condom on, I was nervous at this point as I always was worried about the pain. Once he had the condom on there was no turning back this was it! My First Time!

He asked me if I want to be on the top or bottom, thinking what would be more comfortable for me, I initially chose to be on the bottom but we could get it in, so he suggested I go on top. This was much easier as we both could control the situation better! My next thought was the pain and yes as he penetrated for the first few time it was a little painful, but nothing compared to what it had been hyped up to be.

Soon it became pleasurable not orgasmic, just his nice sensation, warm and loving, my boyfriend continued to check to make sure I wasn’t in pain and that I was enjoying myself, which I was. Being his first time too, he came pretty fast, he at first was discouraged at the fact I didn’t orgasm like he did, but as soon as I got off him he continued to finger me until I came.

After this experience I just laid in his arms for hours. He continually told me he loved me, and just held me as we talked and kissed. It was the most beautiful, spiritual connection I have ever had with him. It was romantic, like something out of a movie, which I wasn’t expecting considering everybody tells you its nothing like that!

After about half an hour I asked him if he wanted to try again, which he did so I got on top of him and this time helped him guide his way inside. This time it wasn’t painful at all, just that nice sensation again, it also lasted a lot longer and was as special as the first time we tried!

This is a day I will never forget! If you do it with somebody you love then it is a completely different experience, I don’t think this experience has distanced us, it has made us closer together! I love him with all my heart and hopefully one day we will be together forever.

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Anon

I was in the 7th grade. School was almost out. I had dated the same boy for a while and something about him made me feel so comforted. I felt protected with him. I just wanted someone to love me and that's what he did. One day one thing lead to the other and I lost my virginity. He went around telling everyone and then broke up with me weeks later. Although he hurt me so bad, I still loved him. I wanted him back. I cried myself to sleep every night. That is no understatement. After we broke up all I could think about was him. He soon dated others and I never felt like I could. I was so scared to have a relationship from the moment he left on. I'm in the 9th grade now. I have a boyfriend for the first time since then. He is really caring and nicer than any of the men in the past relationships.

Our relationship hasn't ended yet and I feel the need to take another step. He hasn't ever had a serious relationship. I cried while even thinking about telling him I have had sex before. I know he will still love me, but I don't love myself anymore. I finaly worked up the courage to talk to him about it. He was upset of course but he understood. It just hurts to this day to wake up next to him knowing he gave me his gift of love, his virginity. I had nothing to give. It made me feel worthless. I wanted to give him something special, I love him. I know he still loves me and he wouldn't ever leave me, but it still hurts to know I gave my love away to someone who hurt me.

I just wanted to let everyone know, girls and guys. Please don't play with sex? It isn't a toy, at all. I know you hear this speech everyday, but you really don\'t know how bad it hurts to give it up and not be truly loved. When you do know what that feeling is like, it will be too late. I'm not trying to be a father, mother, sister, or brother. I'm not trying to be anything. What I am trying to do is let you all learn from my mistakes, because there is no turning back. Once you cross that line you cant go back no matter how hard you try or how long you cry. You will have to live with the choices you make now for the rest of your life. There is no running away from the truth. It is one of the most painfull things. So when you think your ready to have sex, please think it over. You can make or break your life by one single choice made.

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Ashley

My name is Ashley. I am currently 17 about to be 18, but i lost my virginity when i was 16.

My first time was not how i thought it would be or how i wanted it to be.

The guy, i had known since my freshman year of high school and he was a great person, sweet and kind..... then anyways. We remained just friends for about a year and a half, two years but there was always something there between us. He had asked me out once freshman year but i had major problems with drinking and partying, some drug habits then and I didn't think that i was the right person for him, for he was really smart, kind of a geek lol but i really did like him we were just way different.

I stopped the drinking and partying with his help for he cared enough about me that he talked to my parents and told them that he was worried about me and they got me help. We still remained friends after that and i started to take things more seriously in my life. We started going to school dances together Homecoming and the sweetheart dances yada yada lol and the first time he kissed me was at the sweetheart dance freshman year. I freaked out for he was the first person I had ever felt true feelings for and I wasn't ready for a relationship then. We didn't date that year, the kiss made things a little awkward after that but we laughed it off eventually.

We started dating at the beggining of our junior year and we talked a lot and one day sex came up in the conversation. I had known since freshman year that he was a virgin. He never new that i was a virgin for he never really asked but he told me one day that he had heard that i wasn't a virgin from my friends and that he was okay with it if i wasn't virgin. I was a little mad that he just assumed that i wasn't a virgin instead of asking but we talked about it and everything was okay he said sorry.

We were at his house one night and his mom had left to go get pizza for dinner. We were just laying on the couch watching a movie and as soon as his mom left he looked at me and pulled a condom from his pocket and said do you want to. I was shocked for we hadn't been doing anything but cuddling, not kissing or anything. My body wanted to but my emotions said no for the mere fact that i didnt know if i truly loved him and if i was ready. But i said sure. He took off my shirt, bra, pants, and my underware so fast that he was in me like 15 seconds after i had said yes. It hurt a little and lasted for about 10 minutes and it felt good but there was no emotion to it, it was just sex.

We dated for three months and after that night our relationship became about sex. We broke up once during that period but only for a matter of days. We got back together hoping things would change but it didn't. He told me he loved me but love shouldn't have been about sex. When I had a pregnancy scare and told him, he waited for me to tell him that i wasn't pregnant then he broke up with me a few days later. He said he didn't want to be with me but we could still be friends with benefits. I was so upset with him. WHAT A JERK. We haven't really talked since we broke up start of 2nd semester junior year, but i have classes with him and i had to work with him a couple of times on projects but we aren\'t really friends anymore. I miss the nice guy he use to be. After we lost our virginity to eachother he turned into and ass.

IDK what happened but i really regret that night now. Especially now that i am with a great person and have been for almost 9 months and i love him and he loves me and he wants to make love not have sex. He is sweet and gentle and takes things slow. I wish it was him.

My advice for both girls and guys is make sure you really want to have sex and make sure that the person your with respects you; both your body and how you feel when it comes to sex and your relationship. Talk about the what if's and really make sure YOU'RE READY!!!!!!

ACCIDENTS HAPPEN PEOPLE........... PLEASE PLEASE PROTECT YOURSELF FROM STD'S AND PREGNANCY WHEN YOU HAVE SEX.

ABSTINANCE ALSO IS COURAGIOUS AND ANYONE WHO IS A VIRGIN, TEENS OR YOUNG ADULTS GOOD JOB FOR YOU. DON'T EVER FEEL PRESSURED AND BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE.

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Emily

  I lost my "V" when i was 14 to my ex boyfriend. I thought i was ready but now i dont think i was, it was a little uncomftable and i think i regret it. I think i was presured into doing it because some of my mates were winding me up about it.

 When we done it the house was empty and he was very pushy. There was a realy aquard scilence for about 20 muinets and the finaly i gave in being me. It was realy uncomftable taking my clothes off infront of him and i wasn't realy shure what to do, so i just went along with it.

Looking back i can see that i realy wasn't ready.

My advice to any one thinking about having sex for the first time would be to make shure YOU feel comftable and dont just do it to impress your mates. When you have sex with some one you realy want to have sex with it makes it a ot easier and more enjouabe. I am currently with my partner of abou 7 months and it feels right and i do not feel like i have to do it but that i want to.

Also be smart and use protection or face the chances of worrying for months about being pregnant. it drives you mad all of those thoughts.

                       REMEMBER ... \"DONT BE SILLY PROTECT YOUR WILLY\".

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Anon

I got into my first long term relationship when I was 16. He was everything to me, my best friend,my boyfriend and the person I was in love with. I was sexually experienced but had never had sex before, whereas he was a virgin. We started "doing stuff" after a couple of weeks and it was great.

We spent most days together, we got on so well and I was so in love with him. After five and a half months we had  sex for the first time. It didn't go so well as he came basically two seconds after going in me.....this was only because he was excited. We had sex twice a day from then on and it got better and better. We loved each other. We planned our future and couldn't spend time away from each other, he was the only thing that mattered. However our whole relationship was based on attraction and wanting to do stuff with each other.

We were together for sixteen months until it started going wrong, he had always been possessive and kept accusing me of cheating on him. He then would argue with me and refuse to speak to me because he was busy with friends, he told me i wasn't allowed to hang out with boys because they all fancied me. He had just got his first job and was acting differently, I started only seeing him once a week down from five and we stopped having sex, I started crying alot because I didn't want to lose him but all the arguing was hurting me so much. He told me that i had changed and that he loved the "old me" that if i just changed back he would be happy again. He told me i was too hard to please. We were on the phone one night after he had returned from work. He had asked me what i had been doing, i told him i had been in mine with some friends. He said were they guys, i said yes, he said that was the last straw, he was mad because i knew he didnt like me having boys in my room and that i was doing it deliberatly. I told him i loved him and not to be stupid because i would never intentionally hurt him. He then kept going on saying how i was a bad gf and i had changed and how i cryed all the time i was never happy how he loved the old me. I had had enough i told him it was over.

I hung up the phone. I realised what was i doing i dont want to lose him, he's my everything, i love him, i phoned back but he said it was over, i had ended it and i promised i would never do that, but i had so he couldnt trust me. After that weeks went by, he wouldnt talk to me without arguing but told me to wait for him and if i changed back he would get back with me, but everything i did wasnt good enough. We were together 19 months and it took me 10 months to stop crying over him, I love him and always will.

Basically our whole relationship was based around sex and we never took the time to get to know each other initialy, we went straight to doing stuff and missed out the foundations of a good stable, healthy relationship.I think that if i hadn't had sex with him things would be different. When you have sex with someone your body releases hormones which make you feel emotionally attached to that person, but that only happens in women. Maybe if i had waited it would have been easier to let go of him. I would wait to find someone. You have got to know, love, trust and care for. Let it be a relationship where you can have your own ambitions and can feel good about yourself. If they are putting you down or theres no trust its not a healthy relationship. You need to be mature enough to handle a sexuality active relationship. Make sure you know your ready. :) 

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Emma

In the beginning of 8th grade I was 13, and I met my soon-to-be boyfriend. He was adorable, sweet, and very very cute. We were best friends for about 3 months before we started going out, both of us doing wonders for the other person. He was new to the school, so I introduced him to all of my friends, and I had really rough family situations which I was trying to cope with through drug and alcohol usage. He helped me completely stop all of that, and needless to say, even though we were only 13 at the time truly in love.

We first started doing stuff about 2 months into the relationship, and I was the dominant one. He was very innocent, and sweet, not one to start experimenting unlike me who is kind of wild and a little reckless. We would kiss and cuddle and do all sorts of things, kiss each other all over when we had time alone, give each other back rubs, have fun with candy and kisses. It always felt so good to be with him, he was the person I loved through and through.

About 7 months into our relationship, I being 14 now, and him about to turn 14 in a week, we decided to have sex. I know it may seem really really early to some people, and when I think back on it, I agree it sounds early, but it felt completely right at the time. We were downstairs when no one was home, and we had sex on the couch. I had been on the pill for a few months, so we didn\'t need to worry about condoms. It hurt a lot for me, we didn't really know what to do, all of our sexual experiences being with the other person, but just to tell anyone, use extra lube, it really makes it a lot better. Even though it hurt, it was still an amazing a beautiful thing for us. I could never regret losing my virginity to him, even though we are no longer together. We were together for a year, and recently split up, though we are still amazing friends.

The only things I would give as helping advice for girls or boys about to lose their virginity is use extra lube, be gentle with your partner, and PRACTICE SAFE SEX. I cannot stress this enough, once we did have sex and I wasn't on the pill and we didn't use a condom. Even though he pulled out early, I was frightened for weeks (three exactly. XD) that I was pregnant. I would feel phantom movements in my stomach, and was convinced or morning sickness. I wasn't pregnant, but it was very possible, pulling out is not a form of birth control, and I have never been more terrified than I was in those three weeks. I hope you all have or have had wonderful first times, I know I did and I will never regret it.

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